How's your day going?

[notacooldad]

I have spent the day trying to empty wardrobes, vac bags stored with clothes and suitcases filled with outfits that really need to be passed in.
Its quite sad getting rid formally old favourite clothes but realistically I know id never wear them again.

I'm going to the gym soon

I'm kind of bored because I've not spoken to anyone for two days either!!
Hope everyone is ok.

Hey.
How comes you haven't spoken to anyone for 2 days?

You should treat yourself to some new clothes.
I've also been doing house work. Washing floors and a good hoover under and in my sofa. My children hide all sorts behind there. Yuk!!

Had a nice relaxing day under a blanket watching call the midwife..

All hell broke loose 10 mins after getting in the door from school run 😖

I really don't want any new clothes at the moment!! I had a bit of a spree at Lady Vintage and in EMP two months ago and can't wait to wear those dresses in the coming weeks.

Theres no bad reason that I haven't spoken to anyone. Both sons have text me and will be home tomorrow night. Dh is away on his training course. I'm seeing my friend tonight for coffee after the gym.

@DriftingTurtles its always the same here. Kids just love ruining the mood. Ahaa.

@notacooldad I'm glad you are meeting a friend after the gym. I'm doing the same tomorrow! Keeps me doing. I'm a social butterfly. I end up miserable when I don't talk to anyone. I haven't seen any friends since last week!

Not bad thanks. Insanely busy at work. I'm on annual leave in the May half term, counting down the days! The weather is nice today after a few days of rain. I'm just sat having a coffee, then going to play a bit of football in the garden with 7yo DS. He has a Beavers meeting on Zoom later so I'll cook a chicken pie for dinner while he's doing that.

I am having an awful day thanks!

DH had major surgery three weeks ago that we had to pay privately for as the NHS waiting list is so long he would have been in a wheelchair, in extreme pain, for the next three years had we not funded this ourselves. I found this quite stressful as we are very much not well off and have had to take a loan to cover the costs ( a bit of my old financial anxiety slipping back in!)

I have done all his personal care for the three weeks since he was released from the clinic, as well as look after our home and pets and entertain any visitors who have called by to wish him well.

I have been kind and caring and cheerful and respectful. I have been his DW, his nurse and his chauffer all without complaint. Today however he is in foul form, has taken to his bed, as he is bored now that as of Monday I have restarted working from home after 2 week dependants care leave.

I have done EVERYTHING and continue doing EVERYTHING for EVERYONE and I am exhausted - but I guess I just have to keep on going

FlippertyTibbert
I'm am so sorry that you are having a difficult time. It dies sound extremely stressful.

I hope you are able to take time in the day to look after you, just to recharge.

Hopefully your husband makes a good recovery.

@notacooldad

FlippertyTibbert I'm am so sorry that you are having a difficult time. It dies sound extremely stressful.

I hope you are able to take time in the day to look after you, just to recharge.

Hopefully your husband makes a good recovery.

cheers notacooldad

Just having space to vent on here has helped a little

Thank you for taking the time to reply and think of me and DH - I am rather pathetically grateful for your kind words

Big hugs @FlippertyTibbert I remember I was 9 weeks post labour when my DH had to go in for surgery. We also had a 14mth old and I had to look after him and two babies. When I look back, it broke me. It was a very bad time.
You will get through it though. When you can, take some time for you okay. Your mental health is as important as anyones.

@FlippertyTibbert sending a hug

So so from me. Went to work. Technology still broken from months ago. I spoke to my boss last week about this when back in the office as opposed to wfh. Meant to be half wfh and half in office atm.

Went home to wfh as pointless staying there.

Several messages from my sister at her wits end with our parents. She was also working.

I ended up not working again in afternoon to sort out parents. We have had to wait two weeks for an appointment about their care needs. Which we are still waiting for meanwhile we are approaching nervous breakdowns. I just wish parents would co operate with the help in place instead of refusing entry to carers and then sobbing down the phone that they dont know what they are doing and cant cope and dont want to be a nuisance. If they just co operated they would not be a nuisance. It is really depressing me. I am at the point where I just want to walk away. It is that bad.

We have kids with SN and homes and jobs and personal stuff to do that is getting pushed down the list of things bc of parents.

If this carries on I can see me giving up working to do more for them bc I cant handle it all. The buck stops with me unfortunately.

There is no back up network. There is me that holds it all together. As I support siblings with child care etc as well.

Rant over

Now to tackle reluctant teens doing homework. When all they are bothered with is SM likes.

Well my tooth broke last night so my sister had to come to the dentist with me as I have an extreme phobia. So now have a temporary filling

My anxiety has now been heightened all day and I feel shit

Today's been pretty rubbish. I'm a TA, and the teacher in my class has been off sick for almost two weeks now. We had the same supply all week last week (she was my teacher when I was at infant school!), then the same one Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, but then a different one today, who I really haven't got on with in the past. I feel like I'm trying to do my job and a good chunk of the teacher's job too (the last supply didn't mark anything so I've been doing it because the last thing the real teacher needs is to come back to a heap of marking). It would be far easier if I was teaching the class! I don't know if we're having the same supply or someone entirely new again tomorrow, so that's stressing me out tonight. And still don't know if the real teacher will be well enough to come back on Monday!

Oh, and I'm also fed up of people being mean to each other: stupid prank videos on the internet; an epidemic of children telling each other to shut up at school (by far not the worst thing they could say to each other, but just shows a complete disregard for other people's thoughts and opinions); children laughing at people when they make mistakes (like supply teachers pronouncing names wrong - what a great way to make both the supply teacher and the child who's name it is feel good about themselves); Robert Peston saying teachers got paid during lockdown for "not much teaching"; bloody Ryder and Chloe on Home and Away gatecrashing Nik and Bella's weekend away just to be mean and obnoxious... why can't we just be nice to each other?!?

I'm sorry for those having bad days.
I hope things get better soon. My gym plan didn't happen but I've done my Les Mills workout!.
My friend is calling round soon with her dogs so we are taking them out. ( even though its pouring down here)
I'm listening to a good podcast and I'm up to 13 bin bags for the charity shop. (There's still loads to sift though but that will be next weeks job!) Its quite sad because the clothes are lovely but there's no chance id ever fit in them again. I've started clearing my bookshelves for good books to give to the charity as well as all my dvds.