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I never believed these threads. Rude woman!

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MindTheBumps · 13/05/2021 10:45

I always took threads where someone has been horrendously rude with a pinch of salt but I actually have experienced it myself and am now a believer!

I was in the gym the other day and a woman walked in, looked at me and said oh you have put a bit of weight on haven't you.

ShockConfusedBlush

I have indeed but on a stone and a bit but I wasn't expecting anyone to comment on it, it's been lock down, lots of us have put a bit on surely!

I kind of blustered about oh you know lock down pounds. But I'm actually a little hurt.

It's given me the motivation I need to get back in my diet though so there's that!

I don't know why it's bothered me so much because it's not like I didn't know, I was in the gym trying to shift it after all so I am working on it but it's not a quick fix as we all know and I just feel quite despondent about it now.

I am not actually over weight, My bmi is 24.3 (just checked) so I think she should mind her own business!

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GabsAlot · 13/05/2021 12:57

this is why i dont go to the gym-i dont need that shit if i decide to lose weight

nasty bitch

Basilandparsleyandmint · 13/05/2021 13:11

I had a situation last night when a woman said to me about me being small (I am 4ft10) she then asked me if I was a dwarf or a midget !! I am just a tiny person but inwardly I was furious as I am really sensitive about my height having had a lifetime of enduring comments.So I totally sympathise x

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MindTheBumps · 13/05/2021 13:27

@GabsAlot

this is why i dont go to the gym-i dont need that shit if i decide to lose weight

nasty bitch

Please don't let it put you off. I joined the gym last year and people have been friendly, helpful and encouraging. This is the first tome I have ever encountered rudeness.

I think maybe because I was pretty tiny and now am a bit chubby it made her taken aback. If I was average and just got slightly chubby she probably wouldn't have noticed.

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Tal45 · 13/05/2021 14:18

Rude, rude, rude.

FOJN · 13/05/2021 14:27

People are usually only that rude about someone's appearance when they are insecure about their own.

I think you handled it well, don't let rude people provoke you into unpleasant, out of character behaviour. Being confident and pleasant will piss her off anyway if her intention was to be hurtful.

Most decent people respect and encourage others who are actively trying to improve their health.

CovidCorvid · 13/05/2021 14:37

There's a group of women like this at my gym. Friend once ordered a croissant in the cafe and one of them looked at her, looked at the croissant, looked at her again and said "do you really think you should be eating that". Twat.

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MindTheBumps · 13/05/2021 16:47

@Basilandparsleyandmint

I had a situation last night when a woman said to me about me being small (I am 4ft10) she then asked me if I was a dwarf or a midget !! I am just a tiny person but inwardly I was furious as I am really sensitive about my height having had a lifetime of enduring comments.So I totally sympathise x
I am short too so you have my sympathy on that one. I am shocked someone came out with that! Do people have no filter!
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Kinsters · 13/05/2021 17:03

Some women are obsessed with their own weight and extend it to others as well. I used to work with one who was really lovely but as soon as she'd had a drink she'd go on about how she was the skinniest one in the office. Literally noone else cared.

Could she have meant it not in a bad way but just in the way you might say oh you got a haircut? It's definitely rude and a weird thing for someone to comment on though (especially someone young and British - my 88 year old Asian GMIL always comments on my weight).

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MindTheBumps · 13/05/2021 17:23

I am obsessed with my weight at the moment so I can relate but I certainly don't judge anyone else's.

I know it is visible I can see it but I not noteworthy?

I scribbled my face off so maybe I have a big moon face Sad

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showmethegin · 13/05/2021 17:56

OP you look equally beautiful in both pictures but that's irrelevant because the comment wasn't about you. It was about her trying to find something, anything to make her feel better about herself.

I would literally ignore if you saw her again. And I mean ignore even if she was talking directly to my face. That'll make her feel as small as she was trying to make you feel.

majesticallyawkward · 13/05/2021 19:19

@MindTheBumps you look amazing! I don't know what that woman was looking at but I can't imagine it was those abs

Flackattack · 13/05/2021 19:30

It’s never ok to respond to that kind of rudeness with more rudeness - so you did well!

I think did you mean to be so rude? Or wow! Or ignoring is the higher path! (Then obviously slag them off on your head!) you know she was rude because she is insecure - it’s not ok but helps you understand

Deathraystare · 14/05/2021 08:50

She is tiny and was telling me how she can eat anything she wants and not put weight on.

Oh you mean she is a complete and utter bore.....

JM10 · 14/05/2021 09:00

Op I'd take your body in either picture. I'm actually not 100% sure which is which, so you can't have out on weight noticeably enough for a stranger to notice. I'm sure you can't have put a stone on in your face 🤣

CovoidOfAllHumanity · 14/05/2021 09:13

I can't tell which is before and which is after! Both look good to me

Nybble · 14/05/2021 09:31

I've just lost 2 stone and I look considerably worse than you. Your body is absolutely great! She is a bitch, end of and I guarantee her weight is not as effortless as she's making it seem.

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MindTheBumps · 14/05/2021 10:57

Thanks, I am really conscious of it as I have a bridesmaid dress to squeeze into (wedding postponed from last year) so I think she just hit a nerve.

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Stickytreacle · 14/05/2021 11:08

You look fine! Any further comments from her I'd just smile and reply with a "How kind of you to notice" or "Mind your own business" or a plain "Fuck off".

HollyHocks13 · 14/05/2021 11:55

You look fantastic, I would kill to look like you!
In my experience, some people put others down in order to feel better about themselves. Not an excuse for rudeness I know but I expect she was feeling insecure about herself and jealous of you.
Please don't let it get to you, you are fab!

jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 14/05/2021 12:49

Some people have to make others feel like shit, in order to make themselves feel good.
It's not you op. It's her.

GroggyLegs · 14/05/2021 12:58

I'd have laughed and said 'How rude!' which is my default response to people being an arse.

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MindTheBumps · 14/05/2021 13:58

I am preparing myself for tonight's visit, managed to avoid her since because I have been on a different schedule but I expect her to be in tonight!

I will wear some spanxs Grin

On a serious note I think I will be more prepared if she says something this time and ready to deal with it.

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Spudlet · 14/05/2021 14:04

That’s so rude! What makes people like it? Shock

Of course now you’re all prepared for another round you can bet she won’t say a word, but you could always take the really high road and give her a bit of a lecture about ‘how you could have caused real distress with that sort of comment and how you never know what someone may have going on and it really does pay to be careful with your words because you could really hurt someone. But of course I know you didn’t mean to, did you? Just thought I’d mention it....’

Depends how much mental energy you want to spend on the silly bint. A totally acceptable alternative would be headphones and refusing to engage in conversation with her again, IMO.

GabsAlot · 14/05/2021 23:30

sorry op didnt mean not to reply-thanks but i really havent got the confidence and dont look anything like you

is this woman got eyesigt problems

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MindTheBumps · 15/05/2021 01:03

@GabsAlot

sorry op didnt mean not to reply-thanks but i really havent got the confidence and dont look anything like you

is this woman got eyesigt problems

There are women of all shapes and sizes at our gym (and men) I was 3 stone heavier myself when I started.

I am one of these born again exercisers though, recommend it to everyone, it's literally changed my life Grin

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