Feeling very down and alone with parenting.

[RosieLeaLovesTea]

Hi all

Tonight I have been feeling stressed with being a mum to my 2 DCs. They are 6 and 4,5yrs. I work full time in a very pressured job. Any way this afternoon we went to take DC 4.5 yrs to see the school offered and take a tour. I asked my parents to pick up my other child on one occasion as wanted to give my other one full attention and not have to rush.

I dropped my DH back home for a meeting (we share one car). Then I took my DC to pick up other DC from grandparents.

Since I picked them up all they have done is fight and bicker. Younger one having meltdown about dropping a drink.

I realised my parents have not seen grandchildren properly for any social time for approx 2 months - before Easter. They only really look after them if I ask them do to something. My DD was so exited that they were picking her up from school. They probably would do more if I asked. But I hate having to ask or suggest things for them to do.

My DH’s Dad - their other parents lives over 400’miles away. Part of the year in Hong Kong too out of COVID times when normal travel allowed. I had mentioned a couple of times about visiting in May half term. I messaged last week to ask if we could still visit. He messaged tonight saying he’s got a flight and will be flying out on Sunday 16/5 so we can’t visit. He has not seen the grandchildren since Dec 2018 when we took them to Hong Kong. My DH is not close to his dad and does not really communicate. So it’s up to me to keep up all the communication. I have made an effort to keep in touch on birthdays, linking up what’s app calls so he sing happy birthday etc. But I just feel so sad tonight that he has missed so much of their young childhood. If there is any contact it’s up to me to make it. We could do more with video calls etc but I would have to do all the contact.

Sometimes I am out of the house 10hours a day. When I get in I don’t feel like taking to others.

Also one of my sisters does not have any children a d has not seen my kids for 1 year even though she lives 5 mins up the road.

My young sister does have a DC 3 years old. We do some activities together but again suggested and organised by me.

I just feel so down and alone.

It doesn’t sound like you’re too badly off for support unless I’m missing something. Though having a full time job with young DC can be a massive strain.

Everything ok with your DP?

It sounds like your long hours in a high-pressure job are wearing you down. I would struggle with that. I hope you can talk to your DP about how you're feeling. Take care.

Hi @RosieLeaLovesTea hope you're ok? Life's not easy with work and kids. It sounds very full on for you at the moment.

@Squicknick thanks for checking in. Yes my job is very full on. But mostly I am a bit sad that my children aren’t closer to both sets of grandparents. I seem to always to all of the thinking, planning and organising if they have any contact with any of them.