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Do I have any rights to keep stbxdh out of the house?

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HickoryHox · 11/05/2021 20:05

STBXDH and I divorced (he cheated for second time). I am buying him out of the house, he has moved in with OW and is buying his own place. Financial consent order is through and divorce finalised (decree absolute) today . It will still be a couple of weeks until the house sale goes through. At the moment he comes to house when I am at work and helps himself to stuff (‘ours’ and dc’s - we have 50:50 custody). He has now removed all the stuff we agreed on (furniture etc) from the house - over two weekends. He’s being really pathetic and taken stuff like oven gloves (he never cooks and doesn’t even have a house nevermind a bloody oven at the moment). I can’t be there all the time as I have to work and he still has keys. Do I have any rights to stop him coming into the house now in the couple of weeks before completion. It’s my home and I feel like my space is being invaded Sad

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ComtesseDeSpair · 11/05/2021 20:19

Whilst he’s still the legal co-owner, unfortunately not. You can change the locks, which might deter him somewhat if he’s just trying to rile you; but if he so wanted he would be able to call a locksmith to gain access again.

Grit your teeth, in a couple of weeks this will all be over and you’ll never have to have him in your house again.

TurquoiseDragon · 11/05/2021 20:24

I don't think you can keep him out until he's off the deeds, so I'd guess if there's anything you definitely don't want him taking you need to hide it or get it out of the house for now.

Iamaperiwinkle · 11/05/2021 20:26

Change the locks and report your keys as stolen to the police. Report to your solicitor and wait.

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DirtyBlonde · 11/05/2021 20:31

This is where you could do with some friends to be round as housesitters/sofasurfers when you're out. It's a lot to ask, but it's only for a couple of weeks, and it would make it harder for him to just waltz in and impossible to go through stuff.

Obviously if you could find someone whose appearance would irritate the hell out of him, so much the better

ImFree2doasiwant · 11/05/2021 20:33

My front door lock broke so i had to change it. I leave the key in the back door. Could be an option!

Longdistance · 11/05/2021 20:38

I’d buy yourself some time and change the locks. You’ve lost your keys and will have a new set cut soon (bollocks to that).
How long will it take to buy the —cunt— out?

CloverHilla · 11/05/2021 20:44

Why does he need to come into the house? Can you lock the internal doors so he can only access certain rooms e.g. Hallway and bathroom?

HickoryHox · 11/05/2021 21:11

Thanks everyone. Unfortunately no internal locks so that's not an option.
Sounds like I may have a wait. My DB said a landlord owns a house but can't just waltz in any time they want so we wondered if this was the same. Some sort of right to privacy but doesn't sound like it. I'll just have to carry on hiding personal items of mine until it's done. I wouldn't put anything past him in terms of pettiness Sad Angry

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HickoryHox · 11/05/2021 21:13

@CloverHilla - he doesn't need to but he'll make excuses. Last week he took all the coat hangers (apart from the ones in use) so all of mine and dcs' stuff which was in the wash had nothing to hang on Hmm.

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MotherOfGodWeeFella · 11/05/2021 21:20

He is being incredibly petty. Maybe ask him if there's anything else he wants and get it over with?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 11/05/2021 21:41

Is he breaching the settlement by taking more than was agreed? You should check with your solicitor.

7yo7yo · 11/05/2021 21:49

Get someone round while your not there. Daft fucker he is.

Cherrysoup · 11/05/2021 22:18

Did you have an agreement with him through your solicitor? Get a letter written if so. He’s depriving his dc of their basic belongings? What a cunt.

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