Do you ever get the ick with friends?

[AmberPatchouli]

Just wondering. I have definitely heard of this in relationships but I have realised I get it with friends too. I can coast along for years finding someone perfectly pleasant to be around, then all of a sudden they do or say something that makes me cringe, and after that: its all I can see.

Its not usually dealbreakers like racism or political stance -although that has happened- more things like being overly loud, arrogant, showing off, being self centred etc. Almost as if I’d been in the glow of a new romance, over looking these things and once I see them I can’t unsee them! Then, ick. Impossible to look past it and move on.

Does this ever happen to anyone else?

MindtheBelleek

So clearly it can involve platonic relationships, and while it’s a visceral physical response, it doesn’t necessarily involve not wanting to shag the person.

A visceral physical response describes it perfectly.

It was one of those friendships that I'd grown out of but seemed to mean a lot to her still, so whenever she'd suggest meeting up I'd go along with it.
But once I'd noticed the "SCHLURRP!" 🤤😋...
Ick!

When she told me she didn't want to see me again (after what seemed to me a very small thing, but sadly must have been bigger to her, and I was sorry about that and apologised), I think I was supposed to plead for the friendship to continue...

Not to be massively relieved and grateful that I wouldn't have to witness someone spattering dribble at the thought of a custard cream again.