Times when Mumsnet has not made your life easier?

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I've just name changed for this thread for obvious reasons, but have been here for years and years.

Mainly it's good otherwise why would I still be here after decades?

But there are some threads where I still bear a grudge for unfair treatment.

Just wondered if anyone else feels the same? Have you stayed even after getting a completely unfair pasting?

I have taken the brunt of some completely horrible comments from people who don't know me. This is 2 or 3 posters in more than 10 years but it still wrankles! One of them was under a nc that I easily recognised. One was on a thread where all her comments about me were deleted but she still posts here. I saved it into a word document. Maybe one day I'll question her about it.

Why did you save it in a Word document? That's ridiculous.

I abhor injustice & hold a grudge forever. It's one of my worst qualities. However people here only see a part of the picture from posts & may cling on to that aspect when you'd see it as less relevant. I've felt that happen in a couple of my posts in the past. Or they might just think the opposite to you. Or maybe they are just being dicks

With the greatest respect OP, I think you need to see it for what it is.

It’s an Internet forum where nobody knows you. People can be dicks. But they don’t know you. So it can’t be personal.
Maybe the people have a point, maybe they don’t, maybe they’re being too black and white and too harsh or maybe they’re right. But why should it matter to you? They don’t know you.

‘nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent’ is a quote you should maybe think about

I think MN overall is a great resource and it's offered me a lot of valuable support and advice. I often wish I'd used it years ago when I was with my abusive ex. I know posters here would have helped me to see what was happening.

On the flip side of that I think it can be unhelpful when posters are told to LTB over the slightest thing. Sometimes asking for relationship advice doesn't mean you want to end your relationship. But people are very quick to offer the extremest of solutions. Makes you wonder if they would up and leave their own lives so readily.

Also the snippy, judgey, sarcastic comments aren't nice to see. Especially when someone is clearly struggling. Aibu can be ruthless at times and not in a good way.

Ultimately as pp said its a forum. You can never be sure of the intentions or motives of people replying to you so it's best to take everything with a pinch of salt.