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I have an interview today and I'm terrified :(

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swiggless · 09/05/2021 07:32

I have an interview today (I know, a Sunday is odd timing) at 9 and I'm so scared that I'm debating cancelling. I actually know the people so it's not a case of 'if I mess up, I never have to see them again'. I really need this job but I'm so, SO nervous that I think I might be sick Sad should I cancel?

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FireworksAndSparklers · 09/05/2021 07:33

No, go for it. Fake it til you make it - literally pretend you're super confident. Do not cancel the interview, just believe you can do it. You can do it.

Annoy · 09/05/2021 07:35

If you cancel you’ll still have to face them and explain why.

It could go wrong, BUT it could go amazingly!

Good luck xx

Mintjulia · 09/05/2021 07:35

That works from their side too. Think about it, they already know you and have offered you an interview, so they must think you can do the job.

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guinnessguzzler · 09/05/2021 07:35

If you know the people, then presumably they know you and think you are worth seeing. Go for it!

Justa47 · 09/05/2021 07:36

@swiggless

Don’t cancel.
Remember they are looking for a person.
So they want you to succeed too.
Stay calm and it will probably be offer by 10am and you know you will have given it a good shot.

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Then treat yourself to a pamper bath!

Remember they are looking for some one as much as you looking for a job. So they want you to be relaxed and good.

Good luck. Let us all know how it goes!

So in you want to do last minute prep. Look up common interview questions uk on google.

24GinDrinkingOnceTheKidsInBed · 09/05/2021 07:36

Agree with PP. Pretending to be confident is the best cure.

If it makes any difference; I’ve done a few interviews recently and we know you’re going to be nervous, we actually thought the person who was more nervous was a better fit for the job, based on his experience and demeanour. The other we interviewed was a bit cocky and seemed a bit ‘I couldn’t give a toss if you give me this job or not’.

Nerves show interest. If you get stuck, just give a quick “sorry, I’m a bit nervous” they’ll completely understand.

MsOgyny · 09/05/2021 07:36

No! Don't cancel. It cannot possibly go that badly wrong that you'd want to never see these people again. Try to stay calm, pause before answering questions, and just get through it :)

You need the job, you'll never get it if you don't go, and you might get it if you do.

Good luck! It honestly will not be as bad as you've built it up to be. They'll most likely think you're more odd if you cancel at such short notice. Go and do your best :)

guinnessguzzler · 09/05/2021 07:36

Grin cross-post @Mintjulia

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swiggless · 09/05/2021 07:36

@FireworksAndSparklers I'm so worried though. I know the interviewer (albeit not very well) and I will see them time to time even if I don't get it and I think that's making me feel worse. It's a full day thing and I'm literally crying Sad

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Gizlotsmum · 09/05/2021 07:37

Do it. If you know the people they will recognise the difference in nervous you and normal you which will be in your favour. They won’t think any worse of you if you mess up. You have nothing to lose by giving it a go..

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 09/05/2021 07:39

I HATE interviews and always turn into a hot neurotic mess. I have been known to say some really stupid things but the last interview I had led to an amazing job I'm really happy in so go for it.

gingerbiscuit19 · 09/05/2021 07:40

Come on, you can do it and you'll be fine. There is no shame in not achieving getting the job if you put your all into it but there is every possibility you'll be embarrassed once you've calmed down and not done it.

You've got this.

RealisticSketch · 09/05/2021 07:40

The interview isn't the problem your big nerves are. Your mission between now and interview is not to cancel it is to calm yourself however you can. Speak to a calming friend, get ready really slowly so you are not at all on the last minute etc etc Remind yourself how prepared you are and there is no more that can be done and then distract yourself. Do whatever it takes to stop yourself getting more nervous. It is ok to let them know you are feeling nervous, interviewers expect it and often are good at putting you at ease.
Don't cancel, you'll do fine, well done on getting this far

babbi · 09/05/2021 07:40

Go for it and good luck

DustCentral · 09/05/2021 07:41

Anticipation is always the worst part.

Once you’re there you will relax into it I promise.

Nerves beforehand always feel worse than the actual thing you’re nervous for.

Just be brave enough to go, then it’ll all settle down and you’ll be fine.

You’ll regret it if you don’t go.

I say this as someone who shakes before interviews so I understand. But the anticipation is definitely the worst part.

FireworksAndSparklers · 09/05/2021 07:41

You have got this! I promise you this is the worst you'll feel all day - the anticipation of something you're anxious about is nearly always worse than the thing itself once you get there and get stuck in. Go for a run or something - do something that will help keep you busy and shift those fear hormones. You need to find something to do or you're just going to go round and round in circles working yourself up

RealisticSketch · 09/05/2021 07:42

Go and wash your face with cold water. Is there a calm calm thing you can distract with? Folding laundry, anything

FireworksAndSparklers · 09/05/2021 07:42

Watch a comedy on TV - laughter is great for shifting fear. It's literally the opposite emotion!

Onlinedilema · 09/05/2021 07:44

Good luck.

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swiggless · 09/05/2021 07:47

I really appreciate it everyone but I think I might be sick Sad sorry for sounding so pathetic but I'm just really, REALLY nervous Sad I do have anxiety at the best of times.

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jelly79 · 09/05/2021 07:48

They will want to put you at ease and get the best out of you. Go for a walk. Tell yourself you can do this! You are more than capable.

It will be an amazing feel when you have done it.

Good luck x

Gizlotsmum · 09/05/2021 07:49

So can anything help take that sick feeling away? Can you eat something? Drink some water? Wash your face as others have said? Deep breaths.

stayathomegardener · 09/05/2021 07:51

What if you fall but what if you fly works well here. Good luck!

anxietyanonymous · 09/05/2021 07:51

A full day thing actually takes the pressure off.

If you underperform in one part of fluff and answer you have many many more chances. And the assessment will be much more balanced then having just one hour.

I have been in recruitment a long time and i fully agree with pp. you absolutely want every candidate to succeed. You root for them-rephrase questions if they miss the point and do everything to relax them. No recruiter is trying to catch you out or trip you up.

If you go today, even if you do not get the job, you will receive feedback and learn things. Which will help next time.

So deep breath. Focus only on the next task at hand. Dont think about the whole day ahead and the outcomes. So for now choose and outfit and get dressed. Then focus on the journey. Then focus on the arrival and any welcome and introductions. One step at a time.

I like to give my anxiety a name. So tell Derek to fuck off and that he is not going to ruin this for you today.

allthequeenshorsesandmen · 09/05/2021 07:57

Good luck

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