Is it normal to want another baby even though you don't really want another child

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I keep thinking I want another baby, but then when my toddler is doing something I think, I'll be glad when this phase is over and I don't want to do it again. I have an older child too already, so I have 2 children, a boy and a girl.

But then clearing out things like toys I think oh should I keep that for number 3, which would be ridiculous as I'm too old, poor, all the reasons, plus then it's putting my oldest through it twice.

Is it just a thing to want another, but not really. The idea but not the reality, maybe the old biological clock ?

I do get the occasional pang sometimes. If I could guarantee that I could have another baby that was as quiet and content as my last (slept through from the start!) then I would be seriously considering it - but its probably best not to push my luck 🤣

We only ever wanted 2 children. I had horrendous pregnancies with both but luckily we ended up with 2 gorgeous boys. DH. had a vasectomy when ds2 was 12 months, and we have never regretted it.

However, until ds2 was about 8 or 9, I was occasionally quite sad that I would never experience breast feeding again. I think that's because ds1 was born prematurely and although I struggled on with bf for months it had to be supplemented with formula and it was never great. Whereas ds2 was a brilliant feeder, breast feeding was amazing, then he got to 10 months and one day just refused the breast and never fed again. It was a complete shock.

When I got nostalgic about feeding I used to remind myself of all the not-so-great stuff about small children!

This is why you should always clear out baby/toddler stuff as soon as you’ve finished with it for your “last”.