Feeling so low and anxious

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Just looking for someone to talk too.
I feel like I'm losing it recently.
I feel like my daughter (age 5) is permanently unwell and I'm forever calling the doctors. I'm worried they think I'm insane. She has suspected asthma, eczema and I think she is intolerant to something as she gets bad stomach pains and uses the toilet a lot, she also has a horrendous problem with snot. I have to clear her nose out in the shower every morning when she has a cold and you wont believe the amount of it that comes out! She never breathes through her nose.
Now, shes woken up in the night and her cough is like nothing I've heard before. It's like a weird bark. Now my baby has a horrible blocked nose too and is coughing. So back for another bloody covid test. I swear she is always sick! What am I doing wrong. I feel really stressed. She had strep as a baby too. I feel like such a bad mother. Shes in our room with us and I csnt sleep because I'm listening to them both breathing.
She has been running away and school too. My dad dropped something of to me yesterday and she ran down the stairs and out the back. I think she thinks it's funny. She also pushed someone too. I think it was an impulse, didnt think type thing. As she seemed to feel guilty about said her teacher. But she wouldnt say why she did it.
It's all my fault, I'm not doing enough. I'm too anxious and it rubs off on her. I'm really not feeling good, and now I'm worried we all have bloody f*cking covid. I just want to cry.

Sorry just a quick reply from me but asthma, eczema and allergies very often go together. The stomach aches, blocked nose, over production of mucous, diarrhea - this sounds like classic food allergies. Get her tested. Poor mite is probably feeling awful eating something normal like milk or eggs or nuts or something.

Covid complicates things, but this doesn’t sound like Covid to me. Not a doctor, get tested. But really push allergy testing with the GP.

5yo can be a tricky age with the transition to big school. Go easy on yourselves and good luck. Allergy tests!!!

Sorry this is happening to you. Agree with ARose about the allergy thing. Can you sit down and talk to your family doctor, I mean really talk ?
I think if you can get reassurance that you are doing everything right and that you are not going nuts you can probably handle the situation better.

And push for allergy testing. It's your right to ask

Yes definitely get her tested for allergies. Also a child that is uncomfortable with often be naughty too. You could find she calms down once you get to the bottom of her health issues.

Poor you and the covid. Testing a baby doesn't sound nice. Hopefully you all feel a lot better soon.

You care about all this and care if you are a good mum. Which means you are. Bad mothers don't think like that. Trust me I know. My own was horrendous but no self awareness.

Good luck with everything honey ❤

Thank you all for your lovely responses. I managed to fall asleep so I'm feeling better.
Yes, I think she is allergic or sensitive to something too!! I've cut out dairy (again!) And I'm waiting to see how it goes. This has been her whole life back and fourth to the doctors for various things. But because she is happy I think they think im over reacting! But she is a bit skinny (constantly eating) and I know shes uncomfortable but she just pretends she isnt because she doesnt want to miss out. Like when she gets her cramps she doubles over and whines, but then 30 seconds later jumps up and runs off again! I need to be a bit more forward at the doctors. I took her yesterday about her snot, and the doctor basically patronised me and said she had a cold.. children get colds in the winter. I was like obviously. And it's not the winter? But she wakes up with her pillow covered in snot, she snores so loudly and she cant breathe through her nose at all, even when she doesnt have a cold she now breathes through her mouth which I know causes issues. He said If this happens still in the summer I'll be concerned. I was like THIS HAS BEEN HAPPENING FOR 4 YEARS. Check the notes!! He said comeback in the summer. So I'm calling again today and going to ask for another doctor. I will get to the bottom of this because I just dont think it's normal!

Yes, do see it through. Don’t let them fob you off. Children are resilient, especially when this is all they know.

It could also be a combination of things: allergies, adenoids, intolerances.

Not to freak you out, but if she’s eating a lot and is skinny and has frequent diarrhea, there’s a chance she’s not absorbing the nutrients she needs for optimal health. It’s simply not good enough for a doctor to say “oh she seems fine, it’s probably a cold”.

Stand firm. Insist. You KNOW this isn’t normal and that something is up. Don’t give up on DD.

Yep those ailments are all in the same family of disease.
My son was the same and I removed lactose from his diet and all the snot cleared up and his skin as well. He doesn't eat much dairy cos he doesn't like it but drinks loads of lactose free milk.
Could it be the A2 protein in milk that causes upset?
Do you have goat soap in UK? I used that for his skin as well and was very healing and soothing.
I'm sure you've tried everything, just thought I'd tell you what worked for us. Good luck.

Get her adenoids removed!! ASAP!!

You’ll have a different child. Get referred to ENT or go private if you can as the wait times are long at the moment due to COVID.

99% of patents of children with enlarged adenoids will tell you they went through the doctors think I’m mad/making it up stage. Adenoid problems are worse at night. They can’t see that in their daytime appointments. They don’t even have equipment to see the adenoids at a GPs.

She’ll not be sleeping well due to adenoids. This will be causing bad behaviour. Please please research enlarged adenoids and her her to ENT.

Just go into GPs and demand a referral. Write down her symptoms and video her snoring so they can see her breathing through her mouth at night. Refuse to leave until you get a referral.

Ah I am so sorry I have only just come back to this. Thank you all so much for your advice.
I spoke to another doctor who was helpful. But again he just said to perisist with the salt spray up her nose morning and night. I have been doing this and she is definitely over the worst of the cold. She still breathes through her mouth constantly though even though her nose isnt as blocked.. but I still clear her nose in the mornings and I notice it smells? Like her nose smells. It must be so horrible for her.
I might write a long email about it. I mentioned adenoids to the first doctor who told me 'she has a cold' and he shot me down immediately and just said no. Literally was just like, no. I have anxiety, and I worry they think I'm being crazy. I need to suck it up but it does make me feel like I'm being stupid when they tell me the same thing. I asked the first doctor, so it's normal for her to have an extreme amount of thick green smelly snot every time she gets a cold? And she seems to get a cold every month? And he was like yes. It can be normal.

Also I thought she was getting better since we cut out dairy, but today she randomly started having stomach pains again, and going to the toilet alot.. and has awful gas too! I wrote down what she ate and it was such a normal day. I'm feeling a bit lost. We are supposed to be seeing a pediatrician about this but theh still haven't contacted me about an appointment.

Op you need to push - take a video of her snoring at night. Write down all her symptoms and when you speak to the gp take someone else with you to back up what you are saying. You need an EnT referral not a general paeds. If you can afford to go private it would be money well spent even if just the first appointment.