Wish me luck (first night without dummy)

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My son turns 3 in July and today we have given up his honnies, as he calls them.

We’ve talked about giving them up for a while and giving them to my sister who is due a baby soon. In return, he can have a toy of his choice.

Randomly today, he said he wanted to give them to my sister and he’d like a toy fork lift.
So that’s exactly what we have done.

He seems to have gone to bed fine. He asked for them, in a kind of whisper, and I reminded him that he’d given them away and he said “oh yeah”.

Wish me luck for the next few nights until he’s forgotten about them. I’m more anxious than he is! I’m also missing the sound of him sucking it 😕

Wishing you the best of luck!
My 3 year old still has a dummy at bedtime no idea when she will give it up.
Hope you and your DS have a peaceful and settled night.

When DD gave up her dummy she was very upset the first night but then absolutely fine.If he's already gone to bed fine, I honestly think he'll continue to be. Good luck!

Good luck!!

DS swapped his for a cuddly tractor when he was about 2.5, and whilst he was thrilled with the toy he was most upset come bedtime when he realised he didn’t get his dummy. It was bumpy for a few nights but he got used to it. Luckily I’d binned them all so had no chance of giving in.

Good luck
Stay strong and it will be over quicker than if you give in - promise.

Thank you all. My sister asked if I wanted to sneak one back but I said no.
I think it’s helped that he knows they are gone and that he gave them away. I’d tried a few times saying I couldn’t find one but he obviously wanted to search. I tried leaving them on the side and asking him to try without and he’d grab one as soon as I’d left the room.

He was so easy to potty train, I feel I got lucky, so I’m expecting this to be tough.

I’m wide awake and can’t relax as I’m just waiting for the wake up where he gets upset...

DS did something similar, out of the blue said he wanted to give them to the bin lorry! So we jumped on the chance and he never once asked for it and it was totally plain sailing... I was like you however the first few nights, waiting for the wake ups and tears!! I wonder if taking ownership of giving them away means they’re ready... good luck & hope it’s as easy for you as it was for us!

I really hope that’s the case @Cloud1220
I’ve wanted it to be his decision. I could have just binned them and dealt with the consequences but that felt cruel.

Hes really grown up mentally this last couple of weeks. He started swimming and gymnastics and learned to ride a balance bike and just seems so much less than a stroppy toddler.

I have everything crossed and I’ll update x

We did it over the bank holiday weekend and I was expecting horrendous nights from DD who is 2.5.

She cried for 10 minutes on the first night then slept through, 5 minutes on the second night and we haven't heard about the dummy since then. I was honestly expecting it to be awful but she has done really well.

She has taken to tucking up two teddies into bed with her though.

I don't know why but reading about this has made me go all emotional! What a brave thing he is, to have this resolve.

He might need to grieve them almost, for a bit, but as others have said I'm sure he'll soon be used to sleeping without one.

@AtomHeartMotherOfGod

I don't know why but reading about this has made me go all emotional! What a brave thing he is, to have this resolve.

He might need to grieve them almost, for a bit, but as others have said I'm sure he'll soon be used to sleeping without one.

After the excitement of his new fork lift truck wore off, he was a little bit quiet. It did feel like he was thinking about it and regretting it.

He always has his little ted in bed with him but tonight he took little ted, another soft bear and his fork lift in the side. He’s also had a new fluffy blanket recently which he loves.

I’m going to have a bath then head to bed. If he’s going to wake up it will be when I run the bath, but it doesn’t normally.

Oh oh, wait, I can hear him stirring...

Dd was nearly 2 and I got fed up with her biting them into shreds. So we took them. Just binned them when she was playing and said the dummy fairy came.
The 1st night she was so sad. But thay was it. Although over a year later she said. I'm still cross with the dummy fairy.
Also when we binned hers we'd had ds who has a dummy. And I thought she'd steal his. But she didn't she just said ' dummy fairy get ***' s dummies too '

She also had a muslin which she just stopped herself. I didn't have the heart to get rid of them for months and months.

She has a bear which she has since 1. But she's not massively fussed but likes to know its in her room.

Last night wasn’t so bad at all!

He’s having a bit of a sleep regression anyway so he woke up twice, usual times, usual reasons, no asking for his honnies, no upset or tears and up at 6. It could have been worse!

Well done and good to read update!

I feel tonight may be tough. I’ll update again tomorrow

My son gave his up when he was nearly 5😱😱
He still wistfully looks at the dummy tree in our town he's 7 now

But first night wasn't great but after that he was fine

Last night was easy! Asked once, then he remembered and said, ok, went to sleep and slept through 🎉