He's not going to get better is he?

[stressbandit]

My granddad is 81 this year he's diagnosed with COPD and I think emphysema but could be wrong on that one.

He hasn't been able to urinate properly for the last ten years, it's now taking him around 15 minutes to empty his bladder.
He won't see a doctor.

He now can not walk at all for example, I saw him yesterday he was in the car I live in a block of flats he just has to get out the car walk up four steps and the doors there to buzz in.

He couldn't so I came to the car instead.
He still won't admit he's not well he's lost nearly 2.5 stone in the last few months he's already a small eater.

I honestly think he's dying, he keeps making jokes about him dying and it's the end but I'm scared and worried as my Nan relies on him for everything.
Paying the bills, cooking, food shopping etc we don't drive she doesn't either and she lives a way away. It's just all a mess and because he won't go to the doctor.

We don't actually know what to do or what's wrong with him my kids will be devastated.

You poor soul. I hope he makes it out of surgery okay.

Oh no! Really hope he is ok. Sending hugs xx

Hi everyone well he seemed fine so they let him home yesterday evening.
Except this isn't my granddad who's come home. He won't eat or drink, his breathing is worse he's got the catheter in still and is getting confused and saying silly things. He can't get up to go to bed so has been laying on the sofa and sleeping which isn't like him at all. He just is lifeless when he was in hospital on the oxygen he seemed his normal self yet this person who's come home isn't him is this normal?

No that’s not normal, he may have an infection if he’s confused? I would ring his doctor or 111 for advice.

@Magstermay I will relay that to my Nan now because I'm not saying he was amazing in the hospital he wasn't at all but he wasn't like this in the slightest

That doesn't sound right op. A similar thing happened to my dad, I spoke the the nurse who'd been looking after him as he'd been home only 24vhours. She was great. If that doesn't work, Try 111 again

With a catheter there is a risk of infection which can cause confusion, especially if he won't drink. Is he having any nurse or carer visits?

Good idea. It may also be low oxygen levels causing confusion but either way he needs some help I think. Good luck

@stressbandit had he had a period in hospital when he wasn’t on oxygen to see if he maintained his saturation ? Either way definitely call the Doctor although it’s likely they will say ring an ambulance .

It doesn't sound like he was nearly ready to come home.

Hi again spoken to my Nan she's going to ring 111 and ask someone to come and look at him he was shouting in the background at her which isn't normal. He had a wash finally and then put the old blood stained pjs back on instead of his clean clothes my Nan took out. My granddad would never ever do that!!!.
He also has forgotten what a phone is or does. What the remote does and is refusing point blank to walk but wants to drive to Asda tomorrow. really sad and strange.
He also did say he doesn't mind going back in.

It might be a urine infection, after having a catheter it's not that unusual.
And urine infections can make someone very confused just like
your granddad is behaving.

When/if an ambulance comes your grandad can tell them his wife is his next of kin, that's all he needs to do to change it. Or tell someone
when he gets to the Hosp.
Hope everything turns out ok for you all, op.