Pocket Money for chores around the home

[gemmaH26]

Hi i have a 13 year old who is not very good with money and have agreed with her that she needs to start earning money so she can do chores around the home i have included her bedroom for example bringing any rubbish down, any washing she has and any cups and also making sure her bed is made but now her dad has said she should not do her room as its her room and should keep it clean without getting pocket money im trying to get her to respect her room yes but encourage her to keep it clean and earn a little money while doing so. Any advice please

Do you get money for tidying your room and removing dirty cups?

I strongly disagree with paying children to pitch in as members of their household. What if they decline, you let them live in filth or end up doing it yourself?

Paying for extra stuff like washing the car, mowing the lawn maybe but she shouldn’t need cash to maintain basic standards of hygiene in her room. If she’s leaving cups and rubbish in there maybe stop her eating upstairs.

It’s up to her if she makes her bed or not, she’s the one sleeping in it. But stripping it of linen, cleaning and tidying don’t warrant giving her money you or her dad have earned and you’d be setting an unhelpful precedent.

Give her pocket money if you can afford it and teach her how to budget properly.

I agree with PP. Martin Lewis has some advice on it too. He suggests pocket money for doing stuff that’s for others is a good start. How you interpret that is quite broad (neighbour, car cleaning or hoovering shared areas) but tidying bedroom and some household things should be expected

Ds has to keep room. Clean and tidy as standard. This is a battle years on.!

To earn his pocket money he has to dry up each day after tea. Strip bed twice a week and re make. And anything else I may ask which is normally really small things like carry some laundry upstairs if I'm feeding toddler or take bins out or something. But in fairness I don't ask loads of him

My DS is 14 and I have a standing order paying into his bank account every month as his 'pocket money'.

I don't link it to tidying his room or anything like that as I expect him to pull his weight around the house anyway- he's not very proactive but if I tell him to tidy his room, empty the dishwasher or hang the washing out etc then he will!

If he refused to help out round the house then there would be consequences- Xbox removed or something like that!

What AnneLovesGilbert said.

Mine all had pocket money from when they were 7, so they got to understand the concept of value of money and budgeting at a really basic level.

Mine also have always been expected to chip in with jobs around the house, because they are part of the household.

The two aren't connected.
I think it complicated matters if you interlink them.

I think, once in teens, the opportunity to 'earn' some money doing additional , occasional jobs is fine, but everyone who lives in a home should contribute at some level to things getting done.