Curious to see how you would react...

[Couch2Potato]

Nothing major but we have little petty arguments all the time, so curious to see how you would have responded.

06:45 OH is snoring v.loudly, and I'm laying listening so pick up my phone and start scrolling on instagram etc. After 15 minutes, I put my slippers and dressing down on to come downstairs and read my book/watch TV or whatever.

Obviously accidentally stir him..

OH: Where are you going?

Me: Downstairs for a little bit ...
kisses him
OH: No cuddle?
Me: No, you're asleep and I'm just listening to you sleep and snore. , I'll see you in a bit.
OH: I'd do it for you...
Me: What's that supposed to mean?
OH: No hidden meaning, you know exactly what it means
Me: Okay... I'll get back in takes dressing gown off
OH: No, I don't want to be your after thought
Me: No, it's fine.
gets into bed and tries to cuddle
Me: Cuddle?
OH: No
I get up
OH: Why do you never listen?
Me: Why are you making me feel guilty? I wouldn't do that to you...
I leave in a huff...

@Couch2Potato

I think I'm at the point that I know I need to leave to be happy. And the conversation yesterday was effectively "one last chance" but is delaying a break up.

I just can't bring myself to do it... I don't want to cause heartbreak for him, (or me). I'm struggling with the short term pain for long-term happiness.. and at the end of the day, I do love him... though I dislike him at the same time (is that possible?!)

I know he'd have no where to go... his separated parents don't have the space for him, plus he has two kids from a previous relationship so would need to find somewhere for them every other weekend...

@Isadora2007 FWIW, I would offer to watch a bit of TV or breakfast but he's not a morning person, and I can actually hear him snoring again from downstairs! [grin}

@MilesJuppIsMyBitch Thank you - this does help

But if he says you are emotionally abusing him then leaving him will not cause him heartbreak... try that with him!

You are really overthinking this. The fact that you are trying to work out his motives and second guess what he's thinking shows that you are already in a manipulative relationship where you end up blaming yourself for his choices.

You don't have to stay with someone because you think it's the 'right' thing to do, or it's what someone else would do, or it's what other people want you to do. It's fine to say this isn't working for me any more so I'm ending it.

Relationships are not supposed to be this hard.

Writing here cause I need a rant!
Blow drying my hair, huge knot!
And his says "I looked it up, it's a lack of sex.."

It all sounds very exhausting.

His communication style sounds v hard work

Looked what up?

@WallaceinAnderland

Looked what up?

Looked what causes knots in hair... A lack of sex. He was trying to be funny I think

Oh. Poor you.

Sorry op, I hate conflict too. My dh used to be a sulker after any type of disagreement but I just ignored him and he rarely does it now (it's not easy though as I like to resolve issues). I also wonder if you'd been arguing if you really wanted a cuddle? Personally having sex with my dh if we've fallen out is the last thing Id want. Men are very different in that respect

Boring.

@Couch2Potato

Writing here cause I need a rant! Blow drying my hair, huge knot! And his says "I looked it up, it's a lack of sex.."

Lack of intelligence for him.

Do you get that creepy old man vibe from him OP? I mean presumably you're attracted to him men making an everyday activity into something sexual is pretty gross.