Ideas to play a player

[Biggles001]

So, longish story short, I've been chatting to someone via OLD for a while and we have arranged to meet up in person today. Seems lovely and genuine and we share the same values etc etc....However, it turns out he is far from genuine and obviously a complete player (I saw a friend yesterday and while it sounds completely far fetched, she met the same person last weekend and he had strung her the same lines, values etc...). And I know this sounds unlikely, if I read it myself I genuinely would struggle to believe it!!
Anyway, I was hoping you wonderful ladies could come up with some ideas as to how we could almost play him at his own game? Unfortunately her also actually turning up wont be possible.

Why would you waste your time doing that and possibly antagonising someone who could even turn on you?

He might be a charmer just looking to get his leg over with gullible women or he might be something more sinister.

Playing childish games to catch him out is not going to end well.

If he’s online dating what’s the problem with meeting someone else before he met you?

Just cancel.

Why put yourself in that position? Cancel- tell him why and move on.

To be honest, this is my thought anyway. (We were due to be meeting somewhere I am going to be anyway, so I will be carrying on with my day as usual!!), but I think I may just let him know why. My friend is understandably more annoyed/upset about it that me as obviously she met up with him without knowing what we now know. OLD has certainly been an education!!

Don’t waste your time on him. Had your friend told you about him/similar person already? Does she have a photo? I don’t know how OLD works, whether you send each other’s photos beforehand.

I don't get it. You haven't even met up in person yet. OLD is partly a numbers game and I think it's perfectly acceptable to go on several dates until one person sticks out and you decide to make things more serious with them. Has he lied to you or said anything about himself you don't think is genuinely his personality? Who cares if he's seeing other people at this very early stage - you could be too!

Is it more than he just met with her last week and now is meeting you? Did they leave last week arranging to meet again? Did she think things were moving forward or had they said it was a no go?

I'm not really seeing why you think he is a player so maybe the key info wasn't in your post?

Depending on what you mean by "fed her the same lines" it could be hes a player or he could have fallen into a pattern of saying much the same thing to lots of strangers when sifting through OLD until he meets someone he clicks with. I've repeated myself loads with different people!

If he is a player though, do you really think hes gonna change his ways because you somehow played him back? Or is he just going to think you're a bit unhinged and think he had a lucky escape?

That's how OLD works though? I would find it odd if someone I met didn't speak to anyone else?

He’s done nothing wrong. He’s arranged dates with more than one person, as he is permitted, even encouraged by OLD to do. He has been consistent in what he has said to those dates, which is fair.

You sound quite childish.

What lines and values? I don’t online date as don’t need to but can imagine having very similar opening conversations.

If you think he is a player but you haven’t evidenced it here why waste your time. Many of my friends have done online dating and it is totally a numbers game.