I had a dream that I had a baby last night and it's made me so sad

[PeachFlavoured]

I'm so single. People either think I'm secretly gay, have a man in every port or that I'm insanely picky.

I'm 31, so I know I'm not that old, but at the same time, I've never managed to progress past a few dates, and I do assume that I will need a lot of time to feel secure enough in a relationship to call it serious etc. I'd love to have a baby one day.

Last night I had such a vivid dream about a baby girl. It was wonderful, but I've felt so sad and so inadequate all day.

It's so hard to confide in anyone.

I'm 2 years older than you and pretty much the same situation except I'm asexual. I've had dreams about having babies too. Its horrible waking up and realising its not true. The best one was when I was actually in labour in my dream.. I woke up with my knees up as though I was giving birth

I hope we both get to have the babies we so desperately want.

I hope so too.

I used to have those dreams! Although my feelings about them evolved over time from relief that it was just a dream to regret.

Then when I was about 38 I realised that I hadn't had that dream for about a year, which upset me because I felt I must have subconsciously given up on being a mother.

Then I had DS at 40 and now I sometimes have dreams where having him was just a dream.

You have loads of time and I hope you have as many babies as you want. In the meantime my experience is that these dreams hang over you for a day or so, then retreat for a bit.

I'm so glad you had your DS SmallThings.