Filling my time

[40andsingle]

I have recently (last week) found myself back on my own after the breakdown of a long term relationship. It came out of the blue and I am feeling quite tearful and sad.

I’m trying to be positive but I’m just sat with my thoughts and getting stuck in my head. I don’t have children and although I have great friends, they also have their own things going on.
I’m not sporty and don’t have any hobbies. I never have and can’t remember what I used to do before I was in a relationship.

I’m just interested in what do people do whether in a relationship or not, by themselves? The thought of being stuck at home on my own every weekend is really not helping me feel any better but I just can’t think of anything to do. I realise this seems mad but I think it’s just my current headspace.

Join the Ramblers. They offer a variety of short or longer walks and some have social events. Once you’ve joined you can go to any group event anywhere close or far. Gets you socialising.

Sounds like the perfect time to find out what you would like to do and take up a hobby.

I'm very suddenly having to deal with early retirement and the breakdown of my marriage. So far I'm going to continue learning the violin with the aim of joining the community orchestra. I also knit/crochet/sew and sell a few things. Selling involves online stuff. As the PP suggested there's rambling clubs all over the country. With restrictions lifting there'll be Meet Up's available again.

What do you think you'd like to try?

Also, you could think about redecorating, gardening, growing veg if you have your own place.

Do also give yourself time and head space to work through things too. Doing things can make you feel better and fill holes in your time but I've always found you need to work through events and your feelings too.

Good luck

I'm sorry you find yourself in this position Op with the break down of a relationship is hard. It's scary thinking of change and a new routine. Time to concentrate on yourself and find what things help make you happy. I know it's a bit of cliché but when one door shuts another opens. Maybe if you like animals think of researching a new pet? Something to focus your energy on. Or maybe a new project around the house. If you find some new hobby you might think you like research and see if there might be any clubs. The internet is a good tool for that.