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I just want our relationship to start properly

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LifeinaNorthernTown · 30/04/2021 16:07

Split with ex back in July, a guy I used to see almost 30 years ago got back in touch via Facebook and we've become really close. We didn't have a proper relationship back then, just a few meetings, snogs, nothing more, several factors stopped us from being together, distance being one - both in the UK but opposite ends. Anyway, we kept in touch over the next few years but we were never single at the same time and eventually he met his wife and they moved to Australia. I met my partner and we were together 15 years until we split last year, but old friend and I kept in touch but lost contact around 10 years ago. Quite sad really as he was always someone I could talk to, never ran out of things to say, could quite easily chat shit for hours on end...it was easy and comfortable and I missed him over the years, and him me.

Anyhoo, since getting back in touch around late August (he split with wife 4 years ago) we've become really close, we talk every day, sometimes twice a day, and always for around 2 hours. We never run out of conversation and we're constantly WhatsApping during the waking hours. We have both developed deeper feelings for each other, I love him and he loves me - our virtual relationship is brilliant - I won't go into that too much.

Obviously The Covid was around when we started talking again although neither of us thought it was going to still be around now nor as serious, and we thought we'd be able to get together towards the end of 2020. Both of us have said that we really want to see if this thing we have will work out, we're not daft kids - I'm late 40s, he's early 50s. The plan originally was for me to fly out for 3 months and just be a couple, try living together, doing the mundane stuff, together with the exciting stuff and see how it goes.

I just wish Covid would fuck off so we can make plans to get this thing off the ground.

OP posts:
Lweji · 30/04/2021 16:10

Why can't you travel to him now?

LittlestBoho · 30/04/2021 17:14

Is he still living in Australia? If you do go there (when the borders open again) then get a flexible ticket so you can come home earlier if things aren't working. There's nothing worse than being stuck abroad with a knobhead.

FuckyouCovid21 · 30/04/2021 19:12

@Lweji

Why can't you travel to him now?
Because he lives in Australia

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FuckyouCovid21 · 30/04/2021 19:15

@LittlestBoho

Is he still living in Australia? If you do go there (when the borders open again) then get a flexible ticket so you can come home earlier if things aren't working. There's nothing worse than being stuck abroad with a knobhead.
Lol, he's not a knobhead, known him long enough to realise that but I'm not daft, I know it might not work out but I'd rather know than always wonder. I've got friends in another part of Australia who have said I can stay if things don't work so at least I'd still get to see some of it
Pheebs2021 · 01/05/2021 07:09

Easy to build a relationship in your head and he may not be a knobhead but have you never been in a newish relationship gone on an holiday together and wish you hadn't as you now have to get on for a week before you go home? Spending a lot of time together in close proximity is very different to talking to somebody online. Online people don't have habits, snoring cracking their knuckles tap their pen etc etc all the little stuff that gets under your skin. Easy to make a fantasy in your head feel reality and it just doesn't build up in reality.
So I agree with previous poster get a flexible ticket.

OrchidLass · 01/05/2021 07:52

Have you name changed OP?

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