What should I call myself?

[Wrongnamegame4]

Recently closed my business to free time to try and educate myself about ASD, get help for my autistic son.

I have 4 dcs, all in school or beyond. I’m just wondering what I should label myself if people ask me what I do? I hate the term housewife.

What do people in similar positions call themselves?

I know its not important, just wondering.

It depends who is asking.

On a form it would be housewife or homemaker.

If it’s some nosy cow at the school gates, tap your nose and say you can’t say what you do else you would have to kill her.

Not really in the same position but when I was at home with my DS I just said SAHM. I agree housewife is a bit dated - particularly since many mums aren’t ‘wives’ and if they are it’s rarely for their husbands that’s they choose to be at home. I think as an option for something, I can’t remember what - some kind of document - it said ‘home maker’. But I wasn’t keen on that either. I was a good mum at home - homemaking and ‘housewifing’ less so, I’m not great with housework, so doesn’t seem accurate for me to say that was my profession

A stay at home mum?

Sahm

Lady of leisure

I'd go with Miss Holly Golightly and say travelling

I'm in the same position and I say carer

@Freyaismyname

I'm in the same position and I say carer

I quite like this option.

@Frownette

I'd go with Miss Holly Golightly and say travelling

or I could tell them I’m a WAG

@DownWhichOfLate

Lady of leisure

Would be such a lie

@BingBongToTheMoon

A stay at home mum?

I don’t think this feels right🤷‍♀️

@Pinkblueberry

Not really in the same position but when I was at home with my DS I just said SAHM. I agree housewife is a bit dated - particularly since many mums aren’t ‘wives’ and if they are it’s rarely for their husbands that’s they choose to be at home. I think as an option for something, I can’t remember what - some kind of document - it said ‘home maker’. But I wasn’t keen on that either. I was a good mum at home - homemaking and ‘housewifing’ less so, I’m not great with housework, so doesn’t seem accurate for me to say that was my profession

I am not exactly domesticated

@Chatanooga1

It depends who is asking.

On a form it would be housewife or homemaker.

If it’s some nosy cow at the school gates, tap your nose and say you can’t say what you do else you would have to kill her.

Might save the next comment of, what do you do all say?

The affluent mums at DD’s school look baffled when asked this and just saying “nothing” or “oh, I don’t work” but perhaps that shows the difference between it not even being a thought that someone might judge them for not working, and those who worry about it. I work and end up feeling as if they are baffled why.

Would 'full time carer' be appropriate if you are supporting your son?