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Wintersun93 · 28/04/2021 21:11

have suffered with depression since having my twins but have been okay for 3 years until January this year when I thought I should sort my own problems out as that might be what's causing the problems. As a child I was abused physically, mentally and sexually. I thought it would be a good idea to get help from a therapist on the NHS. As soon as I talked to him he was very persistent I should go and see him. He also asked about my twins and said that he would want to see them too. I found this strange as the therapist was for me and not the children
He would also ring my phone numbers of times because I couldn't attend as my kids was in school and had no one to look after them and was uncomfortable with bringing them to m therapy session. He rung me up saying he got very annoyed that I did not attend and I should attend to see him come today. I dont have any appointment just working on the computer (very weird)
Anyways after him speaking to me like this I was to uncomfortable to see him as he tried to say I had psychosis from experience as a child from what I been through and tried to put me on tablets even know he has never met me or seen me.

Anyway called the doctor and she slipped up saying because I didnt attend his appointment hes concerned over the children's welfare and wants a health visitor to come by and check on the kids and myself.
I feel very discouraged me even get any help any more and very anxious and upset about the comment about the children as I'm a good mum and doesnt mean because I'm feeling down and anxious ( because where I live ) I need help with my children. I'm so worried they are trying to take my twins away by making lies up please help. I need advise xxx

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LouiseTrees · 28/04/2021 21:19

First of all let the health visitor come. If you are coping then there’s nothing to worry about. Then complain about the therapist.

B1rdflyinghigh · 28/04/2021 23:03

I have eal concerns about how pushy the therapist is. Thy should listen and never push their expectations on to you. You are in a vulnerable position which is why you are attending counselling, but he sounds like he is using this against you, rather than supporting you.

Just because people are in healthcare roles, doesn't always mean they are good people. Looks at Harold Shipman and Beverley Allitt.

As Louisetrees said, let the HV come. I would complain about the therapist anyway, write to the GP, that's if you feel comfortable to. I would also ask the GP for a different counsellor.

Chatanooga1 · 28/04/2021 23:10

What a horrible experience.

Personally I had a bad experience with a health visitor many years ago so urge caution at what information you divulge.

She is there to make sure you are caring for the children and that their needs are met so I don’t think there is any need for you to reveal any of your childhood background to her.

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