would you tell your manager?

[Sugarbelle]

hello,

partner doesnt think I should say anything yet as not had 12 week scan but basically I am nearly 9 weeks pregnant. there are 6 of us on the team I work for (office based normally but currently working from home). I had a scan at 7 weeks and all looked fine then.

anyway, a member of the team I am on is leaving in a month. I just know that my manager is going to want to give quite a few of their areas to me. I know it seems a long way in the future that I'd be leaving (if all goes well) but these areas deal with a lot of out side customers, one of which is extremely picky and doesnt like change. they are also quite high stress areas and I suffered with severe sickness my last pregnancy the whole way through and was signed off sick a few times.

based on this, I feel it would be a good idea to give my manager a heads up and let him know that I'm pregnant so that he can think of someone else to give these areas to. he might still give them to me anyway but I feel it would make more sense to give them to another member of the team who is unlikely to be leaving soon.

so, would you say anything or would you wait until further down the line?

I’m 10 weeks and I’ve told my manager. I figured they would need to know why I’m not myself if something went wrong. I’ve also had to tell my manager as some appointments are conflicting with meetings and I needed his backing as to why I couldn’t attend a site visit (throwing up on site in front of colleagues won’t keep it a secret very long). I also need a risk assessment before I go on site. I think it’s all very personal as to what is right for you and what your work is like.

I would do what I felt most comfortable with regardless of what my partner thought
You know what the job would really entail
Congratulations by the way

Congratulations
It's considerate of you to be thinking about the work allocation. I told my manager at 9 weeks because I was off sick more than usual and not myself all the time when I was at work. I think it's really personal to you. If you'd feel more comfortable telling them then do and try not to be led too much by what your partner thinks - after all you're the one going through it! Good luck.

The only reason not to tell people prior to 12 weeks is that if something goes wrong and you don't want people to know.

Telling your manager so that she can plan accordingly is perfectly valid and a good manager would be grateful. It's also perfectly reasonable to ask her to keep it to herself for a few more weeks.

Congratulations.

if I'm being 100 percent honest, I would really prefer not to be given these extra areas on top of what I already do just based on how ill I was last time and how sick I have already been so far this time. I could do without the extra worry if I do need to be signed off again.

and yes, I feel like it would help my manager out. I am a little nervous telling anyone before 12 weeks because I have had a loss before but I'm trying not to think too negatively as I have had a lovely daughter since then.

I think your reasons for telling your manager are sensible OP. Both for your well-being and for allowing the manager to plan for the team. I think they will appreciate the honesty (equally don't let that seem like a reason you have to tell them now - it's not that long til the 12 week mark!) If you do tell them, don't need to mention it to anyone else at this stage.

Borrowed a library book with spooky stories read out on a radio station possibly Lancashire. Anyone know the title?

I'm also 9 weeks and told my manager last week as she wanted to discuss me returning to the office (working from home atm). I think it would be best to give your manager a heads up just due to the upcoming changes. That said, you will likely be working til October so plenty of time to take on the extras for a while.

Ensure than you make it clear that it's confidential for now. You need a risk assessment doing which includes covid. My manager has done normal pregnancy RAs but none during pandemic, so she is doing that this week (also a small organisation).

Congratulations!

Sorry meant to be new thread

Sorry, just see you said you weren't keen on the extra work! Telling now gives more time for another plan! But that said, your pregnancy many be completely different to your previous one! Mine certainly feels different to before

I told my manager when about three days after the pregnancy test. It was because a round of redundancies was announced (in the national press!) that weekend and I did feel quite worried about being made redundant in the circumstances. He didn’t tell anyone, but it was helpful that he knew.