Man keeps staring at me

[AdviceSeek]

Hi all

I wanted some advice, what would you do if you were me..

There is a man in my area, who I don’t know personally and have seen a handful of times in the last few weeks.

He walks through my street, usually with a shopping bag so I’m assuming it’s his route from shops to home.

Anyway, the first time I’d seen him I was standing in my kitchen window doing the dishes as window is above sink and he kept looking up as he walked by. He didn’t look away not for a single second. I kept looking back at him because I was just a bit freaked out but maybe I should’ve looked away.

Second time I saw him he was in my street while I was walking with my kids, again, he had a shopping bag so was probably on route home.

Literally 10mins ago, he walks through my street again with a shopping bag, this time I’m just sat at my lounge window catching some sun and he’s staring up again. I was in my own little world and didn’t even realise it was him, it’s only when I looked down at the street he was already looking up at me.

Look guys I’m a bit freaked out, it’s one thing to cross paths outside but is this man going to keep looking up at my windows each time he goes shopping?

What would you do?

Yes I agree with pp, get a camera and monitor frequency etc. You’ll soon see if it’s deliberate or coincidental

Maybe he thinks you're someone else?

This sounds really old fashioned and sexist, but do you have a boyfriend or male friend who can sit by the window next time the man walks past? Sometimes that does put these "types" off.

Try standing g in the street where he was and looking into your house , often it's surprisingly hard to actually see clearly into a house through a window , he may see you less than you think

Why should OP have to get blinds or horrible net curtains ffs.
I'd have confronted him too, just a 'Do I know you?' to start with but I'm not saying that's the best idea. I don't see why OP should sit in darkness just because some creep won't leave her alone.

You kept looking at him the first time, so maybe he now thinks he must know you from somewhere and he's trying to figure out who you are.

Anyhow, this is what net curtains were made for.

I think some men just get off on making women feel uncomfortable like this. It’s a power play for them. Makes them feel relevant when they’re otherwise worthless

Any normal man knows you don’t go to a woman’s house and stare inside her windows, on multiple occasions, to figure out where you know her from

@crazylikechocolate

Try standing g in the street where he was and looking into your house , often it's surprisingly hard to actually see clearly into a house through a window , he may see you less than you think

I did wonder this too. Maybe he's looking at himself in the reflection? Maybe the time you saw him in the street was just a coincidence and he was looking at you wondering why you were looking at him?

Take a photo of him. Be as obvious about it as you like. Do not smile or engage but let it be known that you see what he is doing. Then contact the local police and see if he is known to them.

Second getting a camera to record comings and goings in front of your house. That way you can track any stalking-type behaviour without engaging with him yourself.

@HectorHalloumi the OP has said she lives in a top floor, unlikely he'd be checking his reflection up there

[quote PollyPepper]@HectorHalloumi the OP has said she lives in a top floor, unlikely he'd be checking his reflection up there[/quote]

Ahh I missed the bit where she said she's not on the ground floor

PollyPepper
@HectorHalloumi the OP has said she lives in a top floor, unlikely he'd be checking his reflection up there
Sorry missed this too