Getting married but not looking my best

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NC as I'm embarrassed.

I'm getting married in two and a half months. I was OK with how I'll look in my dress by then, some inches I want to lose around my middle but otherwise OK. I've got a good exercise routine. I eat at a calorie deficit, most days.

I came across some photos of myself at my smallest yesterday, from three or so years ago, and for some reason all my positivity has just gone. I've realised I have really let myself go and had been kidding myself about the discipline and workouts and eating habits that I've gotten myself into.

All I see now when I look in the mirror is a blob. I can't stop crying.

I know nobody I love will care that I don't look my smallest or most beautiful but I'm finding myself really disappointed. I will never get to my smallest in time. Looks aren't everything but I'd always hoped to feel beautiful on my wedding day but am realising that I won't.

I want to focus on the other aspects of the day but right now I can't. I'm feeling too frozen to even exercise today. Can anyone help me pull myself together?

on my wedding day my dress ripped, my make up looked messed up when i looked in the mirror, my cake collapsed... but when i look back at the photos i just see me and my husband smiling and all of our relatives being so happy for us. it was the beginning of the rest of our lives which will always make me feel happy regardless of how i looked or what happened.

it’s possibly the one day in your life when everyone wishes you the utmost best - you will have a wonderful day honestly and being a little bit over your ideal weight won’t matter in the long run.

you will be glowing and beautiful. and happy. congrats OP xx

I was 4 months post partum at my wedding so I've looked better, but tbh I look so happy, and from the perspective of 17 years later, so young

You're not fooling yourself or anyone else. You are where you are and now is the time to have a wonderful day. If you look even better six months later your dh is a lucky guy.

Sorry you're feeling so low op. I wasnt at an ideal weight on my wedding, I'd had dd1 a year before or so and planned to get pregnant again soon after so I didnt feel the need to diet and exercise hard esp as I breastfed till 1. Anyway I'm now a stone lighter and way more toned then my wedding day but I look amazing on my wedding photos. I'd have loved to look how I do now but I still love looking at my photos 4 years and a baby later

I was so happy and that shone through!

You can lose 2 stone in that time on the exante diet. When I did it I lost a stone a month.
They have increased it to 4 meals a day now because of EU regs but it always used to be 3 and you can easily lose the weight by then.
I'm on it now as I've put on a couple of stone due to the chippy being almost next door!
You can do it OP.
A cheaper option is slimfast, one shake and 2 bars a day.
Whichever option you choose it still costs less than the monthly food shop if you go for the offers.

Don’t stress. Don’t put too much pressure on urself. I look at my wedding pics and I don’t look great but I just tell myself that’s it’s about a marriage not a wedding and I am lucky to have what I do ! Other people are nowhere near as critical as you are to urself ! X

As long as you look like you, the person your partner loves, you'll be just fine!

Oh that's sad.
Try a change of perspective. Go and read some of the news reports on couples who had to get married quickly because their partner was dying.
I know it's a blow to see pictures of yourself when you were younger and thinner etc but much better to have the wedding when you and the wedding party are all still alive and well.

If your DH2B loves you, he probably loves the sight of you regardless of your dress size.

Look. I have a school friend who has an insanely pressured job. Not only is she not at all slim but she's suffered from hair loss. But her wedding photos are lovely because she and her DH are so happy and in love.

Stay healthy, but don't go on any crash diets. Just enjoy this time you have together planning and having a very special day.

Thank you. It is so nice to hear how positive others felt on their wedding days. Especially with a collapsed cake and ripped dress @Confusedaboutlots!!

I know I am just so lucky just to be with someone I love so much. He is being very lovely, he, embarrassingly, caught me crying while typing the OP out. And I'm so looking forward to seeing loved ones. I live in a different city to most of them so it will be so nice to see them.

I don't want to go on a crash diet as many of my family have had eating disorders. But, I have looked at myfitnesspal entries from my smallest and am going to replicate those meals, and my exercise from then, too.

I won't get to my smallest but I'll at least be somewhere better than here.

Thank you all so much. Your replies have helped me so much more than you will know x