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BBQ disposal - nightmare of an evening!

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 25/04/2021 00:32

We had our first BBQ of the year this afternoon. My boyfriend has done them at my house for many years with no issues.
He cleaned out the BBQ as he normally would after it had all cooled down this evening before he went back to his. He put the cold ashes in to the wheelie bin using his bare hands.
Some hours later I randomly decided to open my patio door as I put some new solar lights out earlier today and wanted to take a look at the lighting (FYI they are crap, what a waste of money!). I spotted a friendly cat which one of my cats likes to say hello to. I went outside to call my cat out, and thought something smelled a bit funny. I looked down the side of the house, only to find the bloody bin on fire. I rang 999 as it was a pretty big fire by that point. I did use the extinguisher that I bought when we got the BBQ and chiminea last year as I'm a bit of a worry wart like that. Unfortunately the fire was too much and the extinguisher ran out. So I just got the kids out of their beds and we stood in the front garden and the fire brigade attended.
But bloody hell. My mind is racing at how fate took me outside. I never go outside at night. I would have gone to bed none the wiser at all. It doesn't bear to think about the possibilities.
My boyfriend is horrified. He is coming to fix everything tomorrow, bringing his own wheelie bin to replace mine until a new one arrives. Poor guy is mortified. He can't believe he could pick ashes up with his bare hands and yet it still started a fire. He did say he normally doused it with water and left it for a while, but as it had gone cold he thought it would be fine.
This is our second life threatening emergency in 2 months. I'm feeling pretty stressed out with it all! In Feb half term my 8 year old undid the gas pipe in the meter box unbeknownst to everyone else, and we had gas coming in to the house. It was only by sheer luck again that it was noticed. My aunt arrived at my house to babysit whilst I went to work. She took one step in and could smell gas really strongly. We couldn't smell anything. It was only when I went out and came back in that you could smell it so strongly. The emergency gas engineer came and fixed it straight away. But any normal day, that could have been my eldest teenage son left sleeping in it, or my boyfriend with my kids in there etc. No one would have known because you couldn't smell anything and my son didn't realise he had done something dangerous (he has adhd and autism).

It's at times like this I wish I drunk alcohol! I can't switch off and sleep with all these thoughts in my head right now!

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BluePheasant · 25/04/2021 00:53

Not surprised you're having trouble getting to sleep, how stressful! Did the fire service say how it might have caught fire since the ashes went in cold? Maybe a hot coal was still amongst it all and got scooped up without noticing?
Better to leave the ashes until the next day to chuck out as they really can take a long time to cool down. Your bf sounds very sweet Smile

ThisMustBeMyDream · 25/04/2021 01:04

Yep, it could only have been that there was still something hot inside even though they felt cold to the touch.

It took about 5 hours to get like that though. Must have smouldered for ages before setting alight.

He is very sweet, and he will put everything right without complaint. Every BBQ from now on will have some fire related puns to wind him up with, I'm sure! I guess learning from it and laughing is the only way to let the worries go!

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indiakulfi · 25/04/2021 01:09

We douse the bbq liberally with the hose pipe for this very reason. So speaks the voice of experience Blush

ThisMustBeMyDream · 25/04/2021 01:23

Yep, the one time he didn't douse it, and this is what happens! He has learned a very important lesson I hope!

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MogHog · 25/04/2021 07:21

My DH did the same last year. Luckily I nipped back outside and could smell smoke and we thankfully caught it early enough, that we managed to put it out before it really went up. It did melt a hole in the side of our bin though. Very scary and a lesson learnt. Like you it was stone cold or so we thought.

Beebumble2 · 25/04/2021 07:25

What an experience! At least no one was hurt and the fires out. You’ll look back and both incidents will be part of the family story.
Re the BBQ, we have an old fashioned galvanised bucket that we put ashes from the BBQ and our open fire into. We then can leave it 24 hrs before binning.

Temp023 · 25/04/2021 07:29

On the upside, you obviously have a good man there.

Always as rare as hen’s teeth on MN!

Sparklfairy · 25/04/2021 07:35

How terrifying, particularly 2 near misses in 2 months! Hope you're not too shaken up and managed to get some sleep Flowers

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 25/04/2021 07:41

When camping a few years back, some kids were kicking the ashes of a campfire around. Been out for over 12 hours (evening fire, after lunch next day) and they started smouldering. Fortunately adults around to pour water on it...

Always leave ashes to cool thoroughly. Hope you got some sleep.

beginningoftheend · 25/04/2021 07:45

I understand the shock but I would try if possible to reframe it as how lucky you were to catch it, how you'll be more careful in future.

Beans13 · 25/04/2021 07:50

Bless you you poor thing OP.

Im very much a worry wart like you, and BBQs make me so anxious!

At least you had your extinguisher with you, and at least you noticed in the end and you are all safe and well now.

I know things like these can shake you up (even worse as a worrier), so please try and get some rest.

Just a note on the BBQs if this helps, I always leave the coal and ash from it in a special bucket of cold water for at least 3 days before binning as i'm paranoid it will somehow set alight.

daisybrown37 · 25/04/2021 08:12

My neighbours did this, had a BBQ one evening and then we were woken up at 5.30am by a passer by as the adjoining fence was on fire. They were mortified and very quickly fixed the fence.

Just remember you are all safe, the what ifs are not going to change that, so try not to go there.

Veterinari · 25/04/2021 08:15

Always always douse hot things even if they don't feel hot.

I even run matches under the tap before binning them

Tiny amounts of residual heat can smoulder and alongside rubbish can easily gather heat and ignite over time

CombatBarbie · 25/04/2021 08:15

It was probably the transfer to the bin waking the coals up that done it. I have stacked our coal/wood fire in the morning ready for lighting in the evening and come back to it fully ablaze.

Scary stuff though!!

AbsolutelyPatsy · 25/04/2021 08:21

fire is very powerful!

ThisMustBeMyDream · 25/04/2021 18:16

Thought I'd share the after.... and the after after pictures! My boyfriend put his wheelie bin in the car and brought it over to mine so I am now back to where I started! When the new one arrives we can swap it over or he will take the new one. He will manage without as he doesn't have much rubbish as he is hardly at his flat anyway!

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Sparklfairy · 26/04/2021 11:51

Crikey! That first pic is terrifying!

Changeismyname · 26/04/2021 11:56

Oh my god! That first picture! Your bf has done a fantastic job of clearing it all up. Thank goodness you caught it when you did last night.

FinallyFluid · 26/04/2021 12:01

We had this about fifty years ago, my mother cleared out a fire that was to all intents and purposes cold it had been left for at least twelve hours, she put the ash in the coal shed, we were having dinner and I said there is a fabulous sunset out there, cue mother disappearing and reappearing with the garden hose.

We still talk about the fabulous sunset.

Weirdfan · 26/04/2021 12:11

Agree with beginningoftheend about reframing it in your mind, good lessons have been learned, you now know things you previously didn't and no one was hurt, which is all positive!

My DH had a very minor car accident recently and I had to do the same reframing with that as he travels a lot for work and I already worried about him being on the roads so much. He's been driving a long time and I think even he would admit to a degree of complacency about his driving prior to the accident, I think it's fair to say it taught him a lesson and refocused his mind on how a momentary lapse in concentration can be all it takes. I honestly think it was a good thing it happened, no one was hurt and the other vehicle had very minimal damage but it wrote DH's car off (it was old and uneconomical to repair rather than very badly damaged) so caused him a fair bit of inconvenience and expense and it's not something he's likely to forget.

Neither you, your BF or anyone who's read this thread is ever likely to forget to put bbq coals out properly either now, which can only be a good thing Smile

m00rfarm · 26/04/2021 12:13

We have wood burners - we always leave the ashes until the following day, bag them, and then leave them several meters away from anything that is combustible. After three days we put them into the bin

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