Is it wrong to cry in front of kids?

[Happylittlebluebird]

They are 11 and 13. I'm going through an extremely hard time. Am I in right in thinking it's best to take my off whenever the years start coming so my lads don't see that I'm upset?

*tears

My children have seen me cry. I don't think its healthy to try to hide emotions from them.
I hope things start to improve for you soon.

No not at all! I think you should cry if you need to.

I think it's fine now and again

But ultimately if it's happening a lot I'd definitely suggest taking yourself off somewhere, as it's not nice being a child in that situation and feeling helpless.

I don’t think you should actively seek to cry in front of children but I don’t think they should see you as someone with no emotions either.

It's not wrong to show your emotions. But I remember seeing my mum cry a lot when I was a child. It effects their moods as well, as they really won't like seeing their mum so sad.
I hope you feel better soon OP.

They aren't bothered about me so they're not upset by it. I am trying my best to keep it under wraps. But I'm not a robot so it's hard!

What don't you think they are bothered?

Of course they are bothered by you! You are their mother. Crying is a normal human emotion. But crying in front of them every single time you're sad will effect them

@Happylittlebluebird

They aren't bothered about me so they're not upset by it. I am trying my best to keep it under wraps. But I'm not a robot so it's hard!

What do you mean they’re not bothered about you?

They love their dad way more than me, hence why they are with him for the majority of the time. He is emotionless which makes him the better parent.

Yes you should avoid crying in front of them where possible.
It sounds like you need some help with your mental health. Are you seeing anyone about this(

I'm on meds. There is nothing else they can offer me.

The handful of times I saw my mum cry when younger I remember how awful and unsafe it made me feel.

I don't know the right answer but I try hard to never lose my cool or cry in front of my son. Not always easy!

Being emotionless does not make you a better parent your children need to know its normal to want to cry sometimes, hope you feel better op

@Dizzydream It makes him more stable. He says that crying is weak, especially if you are a boy/man.

You again, no I don’t think you should cry in front of your children if you can help it.

Don't say that OP. Of course they don't love him more.
It's probably a case of not wanting to see you sad so they choose to be with him.
Please speak to your Gp about the way you feel. You don't have to live that way x

@DamnShesaSexyChick Thank you. I'll make sure to take myself off as much as possible.

Being emotionless does not make you more stable im sorry op but being sad is a normal human emotion, although I would try not cry infront of them all day every day now and again when something sad happens its fine. Sounds like he's being emotionally abusive tbh

@Freyaismyname I've spoken to four differnt GP's this month. They refer me to a MH service but they can't help until the trauma has passed. An 8 month waiting list after that if I qualify.

Are you the same poster who had a thread about losing her sons to their father?

Given your updates OP, I think you should definitely take yourself off and away from your children

I don't believe they don't care about you, they probably just feel helpless and that can sometimes make kids shut off their emotions outwardly.

But inside, who knows what effect it has on them.

@WorraLiberty I agree. Best for everyone. Thank you.

Sounds like your ex is having to be the emotionless because you haven’t got a handle on your MH condition. If you’re crying constantly your meds clearly aren’t working - go back to the GP and get them to review them