Fucking hell...another racist incident in school!

[paralysedbyinertia]

What the fuck is wrong with some kids that they obsess about other people's skin colour?

Have previously reported racist incident to school concerning mixed race dd. At least one of her friends has also reported stuff. The school seems to take it seriously and they say they're dealing with it. I have no reason to doubt this, but I've just had a call from the deputy head to tell me that there has been another incident. Not directed at dd so he couldn't tell me the detail but he wanted to let me know that she had witnessed it and was apparently very distressed. She isn't home yet, but I know how upset and angry she will be, and I'm so fucking upset and angry on her behalf - and for whichever of her friends it was directed at.

Just need rant, really. Why are some kids such nasty little shits? What is fucking wrong with them?

I don't blame you for being angry at all OP. It's awful that children have to go to school and be subjected to racism.

Maybe it's being in schools, but I've always taken the view that it's possible to view the child's situation charitably whilst having zero tolerance on any racism. Eg, I don't get annoyed that at 15 they should know better because I'd spend my life furious at the intolerance we hear, but do consistently sanction racist behaviour and make it clear that it's not acceptable under any circumstances.

@LolaSmiles

Unfortunately students are sponges and if they are brought up in families and social circles where racism is normalised, they don't see anything wrong with such disgusting behaviour.

It's good school are taking it seriously though.

That is it.

I've witnessed racist talk from children in the past and spoken to them about it; then I met one or both parents who did the same only worse!

I think its terribly sad that we have this culture still .Its the 21st century FFS! Its good that the School appear to take it seriously .Hopefully the Police will be called .Hugs to you and DD .Hope she is OK .They are just a load of idiots!

Some kids, boys especially, seem to be almost rebelling against any equality movement. It's the same with feminism. Some girls at DD's school has posted on their social media posts in relation to the Sarah Everard murder about how women should be safer etc. Lots of boys piled in saying it's women's own fault they are raped, they get what they ask for etc. and generally posting abusive posts back at the girls. The head had to step in to deal with the boys! WTF? DD also says sexist behaviour, suggestive and offensive comments, cat calling etc. are all common place at school.

I feel for your dd and I disagree with other posters. School can't solve every social problem but by 15/16 years old I would expect a person to be able to think for themselves. You can't blame racist behaviour on shitty parents forever, eventually you have to take responsibility for your own behaviour.

My daughters best friend is mixed race and she has had racist abuse from people at school. Also exdh's girlfriends delightful son called her the N word. When I informed the twat he just shrugged.
It's definitely learned at home.
I have had to have serious words with my youngest son as he was parroting his dad's retoric about how Black lives Don't matter.

My son is 6 years old 2 months ago he came home saying he doesn't want to be black anymore because his class mate said she doesn't want to stay near him because he brown and she doesn't like brown skin people. I talked with teacher about this and I said she needs to talk with child's parents because I don't think this came from the child thinking. The teacher never came back to me to say anything. Unfortunately this is never going to change.

@Faultymain5 it's always just bantz until you point out just how offensive it is and then watch the backtracking or hole digging!

It just made me so sad because for some reason those girls are under the impression that being well spoken, keen to learn and having ambition are not qualities black girls should have, they are some how seen as white qualities.

I hope your DS is OK, being a kid is hard enough without people projecting their ideas of what black behavior looks like to them on to you.

@LolaSmiles

My best friend was brought up like that, but by 14-15 she knew it was wrong. I'm half Arab, by the way. Her family don't quite know what to make of mine. I don't think we look or act the way they imagine Arabs.

Thank you all for your comments and for allowing me to rant earlier.

I don't want to go into the detail of what happened, but I just wanted to say that dd is angry but ok, as are the two individuals who were targeted. The school took the incident seriously and the police are now involved.

I'm sorry to other posters whose children are having to deal with this.

The parents teach them that behaviour. Where else would a 7 year old learn to call my DD a pikey or a gypo or make other disgusting remarks about them being a gypsy?