Anyone else's dad do this when they travel in your car?

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

Or other Male relative/friend. I've only known men to do this so happy to hear if any women also do!!

My dad has this habit of thanking other drivers on my behalf when he is the passenger in my car. Gives me the rage .

It's my car, they are letting me out, I will do the thank you wave.

Dh tried it the other day so I gave him the evil glare.

No way would I gesture a thank you to other cars if I was a passenger- it's just bloody odd.

Oh dear, I do this for DH but only because he either forgets the thank you wave or does a really odd one.

@MelissaVonStressel

My dad just grabs hold of the "oh god" handle like he used to when he was teaching me. Thirty years ago. I haven't hit anything, ever

My 20yo dd does this. She only started doing it when she learnt to drive.

Not my Dad, but DH does even though he knows it infuriates me. 12 year old DS started doing it too, but I trained him out of it quickly.

No but he would sit in a braced upright position, gripping the seat Got only slightly better once it wasn’t his car.

My dh has lost his license, (medical issues,) he has started doing it. It does annoy me but I think he’s compensating.

Yes my dad does this all the time. As if he is a driving instructor supervising this incompetent woman. Although it is slightly better than driving my mum, who holds on to the door handle until her knuckles turn white, simulates breaking with her feet and has been known to actually scream if she feels I am approaching a junction a little too fast. I'm really not that bad a driver!!!

He feet go when he thinks I should be braking/changing gear. I threaten to get him one of those toy steering wheels to stick on the dashboard.

My husband does this. He’s written off three cars in accidents that were his fault. I’ve not had as much as a minor scrape. Drives me fucking mental.

I hope he does all the other gestures that are necessary and commonly used when driving.

My Dad used to do this and tell me I was too fast, too slow, when to brake, when to indicate, where the house was, it went on and on! One day I had enough and just stopped the car and told him to get out or shut up.

Surprisingly it worked and he's barely said anything since and that was 20 years ago.

He does like to tell me when to turn the wheel when reversing off his drive but I've solved that by reversing onto it so he doesn't get a chance.

My Dad used to be a driving instructor so you can just imagine the merriment that awaits me if I have to drive him anywhere.
Random men try to tell me how to drive too and I’ve also had one congratulate me for parking a large SUV into a very tight space. Very much doubt he would have commented if I was a bloke.

Last week on a country lane which isn’t very wide, there was a queue of traffic to get into the car park of a Country Park. I was on the opposite side and going quite slowly so as not to go down the massive pot hole on my side of the road.
A man in the queue starts trying to wave me along as he must have thought I thought my car wouldn’t fit through.
Don’t need your help, Dickhead.

My OH and his Dad do this. I agree it's patronising. I don't think they can help themselves. I'm surprised FIL doesn't try to do the gears for me too, pop the handbrake on for me when I park. I'm sure he's dying to.

I also remember being young and every time I saw my nun doing this asking her who it was. I just thought she knew loads of other drivers and was waving to them!

My mil does this to my Fil. As well as constantly telling him how fast he is going, when there are pedestrians on the pavement, when the lights have changed etc. I try not to travel with them if possible. The tension is palpable

My mum, not my nun.

I refuse to drive with dh in the passenger seat. So if we go anywhere he is in the back.

He "breaks" for me (about 100 meters before needed)
He " thanks" other drivers
he has an infuriating habit of clutching his hand against the handle up to the top of the car door (inside) meaning the entire window is blocked for me to view.

the stupid thing is he out right admits I am a better driver than he is.

It winds me up so bad I just got to a point where I was like "nope I am not driving with you in the passenger seat"

My mum does it and my dad doesn't.

In fact she's does it in a far more OTT way than she would if she were driving (probably because she can).

As in it's not just a hold hand up to say thanks, it's a extremely enthusiastic wave and overty mouthing of thankfully. To such a degree it's almost sarcastic!!

I do it when DH is driving because he is a died in the wool BMW driver and never thanks anybody for anything when driving. It makes me cringe so I do it. He doesn’t indicate either, obviously.

@Chemenger

I do it when DH is driving because he is a died in the wool BMW driver and never thanks anybody for anything when driving. It makes me cringe so I do it. He doesn’t indicate either, obviously.

Oh I do hope you go out of your way to tell him he's forgotten.

I would often get the person in the passengers side to wave thanks at drivers letting out depending what side the car is at.

I actually do this when a passenger in someone else's car, didn't occur to me it might be irritating.

DH has two irritating habits when in the car with me driving - holding on to the oh shit handle, and telling me "there's a car coming!" when I'm about to pull out of a junction or a parking space. Yes, thank you, DH, but I actually do check rather than just driving headlong into oncoming traffic!

The couple opposite my dm were getting a lift with us one day.
Just as I was about to reverse out of dm's driveway the man altered the passenger wing mirror so he could see and I couldn't.
I told him sharply to put my mirror back so I could reverse safely.
Cf.

Howyoudoingirl Are your ILs Hyacinth and Richard?

My husband lets me know when the way is clear and it really really infuriates me.

"ok CLEAR! You can GO!"

It makes me panic and feel pressured to go when I was fully intending on going anyway. It sets my nerves on edge.

Oh! AND he 'helps' me reverse.
"You're ok this side."

Yeah I know I'm ok that side, I checked.

Does he think I can't cope with reversing into a space when he isn't in the car?!

I had a man wave me back into a space recently actually.
I wanted to slap him.
I'm perfectly capable of reversing into space without him waving me back into it.