I miss my husband since my baby arrived

[Vanessa08]

Hi all,

I have a 4 weeks old baby who I love dearly but since he arrived I hardly spent any time with my husband and I miss him a lot. We have been together for 10 years (it took us 6 years to have our little miracle) so I am really used to spending time with him and find this new situation really tough. Thanks for your time

Yeah my baby has reflux and colic so the nights can be quite intense, he also does a lot of cluster feeding at the moment so I go to bed at 8PM until his next feed as I am exclusively breastfeeding then my husband deals with him between 8am and his next feed. I wasn't complaining, just sharing a feeling I find hard to deal with and hoping I wasn't the only one who felt this way, thank you for all the mums who sent supportive messages

You're definitely not the only one who has felt this way. Some newborns are just HARD WORK and don't leave much time for being adults together. It it passes. (My firstborn is now almost 7 and still highly strung, but after both my babies DH and I had our evenings together back by 3 months, and second time around I just didn't worry, because I knew it would pass.)

I remember this with my first OP and it does pass. I remember the magical time when she started going upstairs to bed at 7pm and we got our evenings back together. You're in the toughest bit now but it does get better.

@Vanessa08

Hi all,

I have a 4 weeks old baby who I love dearly but since he arrived I hardly spent any time with my husband and I miss him a lot. We have been together for 10 years (it took us 6 years to have our little miracle) so I am really used to spending time with him and find this new situation really tough. Thanks for your time

I know what you mean. My baby is 10 weeks and I've said the same thing. I love my baby very much but there are moments when I miss it just being the two of us because I feel like I never see him. He leaves for work by 7:50 and we have a dog so mornings are busy, evenings are busy too and I get into bed at 8 to feed my baby to sleep as soon as she goes down we sleep. So we end up having barely any time to talk or be alone

Those first 12 weeks are tough, be kind to yourselves. It becomes a bit of a blur but most importantly, it gets easier and you’ll find each other again.

Thank you guys, what I really need to remember is that this time last year I thought I would never be a mum and here he is...arrived out of nowhere. But it gives me comfort to see that I am not the only one...

Ugh a baby with colic is horrific. And LOL to the person who said babies nap all the time. Mine stopped napping at 3 weeks and would only sleep if being walked or bounced. It was ducking exhausting.

It will improve OP but these first few months are pretty brutal. I'd try and just get through them as best as you can. You'll have some more down time to be together in a month or two. The first few weeks are all about survival in my experience!