Should I just give up?

[wishthiswasreallife]

Wise mumsnetters..

This site was a godsend during my DV relationship breakup two years ago and then during getting back on my feet and providing a stable home for my daughter.

So recently I felt like I was ready to start dating. Obviously with current circumstances it hasn't been possible to meet people so I tried online dating...omg. So so many weird guys,horrible,nasty etc but on occasion I have had conversations with lovely men (or so I thought). My first virtual date two months ago I thought went well,previous we had been texting a lot, the next morning he had blocked me. Ok I thought try again, spoke to another guy for a few more weeks then met up with him for socially distanced walk...went well laughing,chatting for a while, he asked to see me again and then the next day I got the "wasn't feeling it text" so my last date I spoke to this guy a lot really felt like we hit it off I was confident etc met him on Saturday (no alcohol involved) and it went well..we kissed after he initiated it. He asked to see me again next weekend all went really well I thought...Iv just found myself blocked on all social media.

What am I doing wrong? It took me so long to work myself up to getting back out there. I feel like i must be an ugly old troll or something. I'm so down about it all now. Should I just give up looking for someone? I'm 30 I don't want to be alone forever but I feel like I must just be damaged goods after my last relationship.

So can anybody give me some hope that this will work out for me 😭 success stories from online dating? I'm ready just to be alone forever at this point.

Thanks

Can't even get a reply on mumsnet 😂😭

I haven't been brave enough to try it but I highly suspect that it's not you it's them.

Christ you’re only 30! Why would you be alone forever? No need to be so dramatic my dear!

My sister went on shit loads of tinder dates, she reckoned 5% were worth a second / 3rd date. Her boyfriend she ended up meeting at her gym.

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself!

Blimey. There are some weirdos on the internet! Now that restrictions are easing you might be better off getting out and about to meet people. Good luck!

It's just the way online dating is , the best way to handle it is to not get too invested straight away and to not take it personally. Take everything they say with a bucket of salt, it sounds so cynical but it's rare to find someone genuine online.

My friends did online dating, an online chat means nothing at all really. Remember you will also meet up with men and think they are not second date material. I think the big difference is women are conditioned to be nice so are probably far less likely to just block. So you don’t understand why at all because you wouldn’t do it.

The real issue here is in such a short time frame without any real meaningful relationship having had time to develop why have you let it affect you so much?

What you are doing wrong is letting men you barely know make you feel bad about yourself. I see you have survived DV, well done for getting out and rebuilding your life. But you need to guard your feelings more.

My friends that online dated did have ok outcomes but made loads of awful decisions. I found they got the feels for far too many of their dates very quickly and ended up in a few difficult situations. On a personal level and at many years older than you. I have met 3 men who I would consider relationship material. I dated one and married one. Nothing happened with the other one but he is a lifelong friend.