I'm 31 and other than a few close friends and family, I feel I get more support from strangers than I do from some 'friends' from school and uni.
I love to be around people who are motivated by their passions and dreams (no matter what that passion is). I love to see my friends succeed. I'm admittedly an ambitious person. I've set up 2 of my own businesses and I am successful by my standards of what success means to me.
I am also very sensitive, and I can really feel people's energies. I can sense if someone is genuine or is not.
I've had some horrible experiences in the past where I've shared happy news (pregnancy) and had a very flat, sometimes cruel, response from girl friends from school days. One asked me if I was sure I was ready to have a baby and had I considered an abortion! These experiences really made me retreat into myself and feel unsafe to share happy news for fear of people either being jealous or unsupportive.
Because of past experiences, I tend to keep my life successes and 'achievements' to myself.
AIBU to find it hard to navigate sharing lifes successes? do people just not really care? do people prefer to hear when things aren't going well for their friends vs when they are going great?
Or, are some people (me) just harder to be happy for, because they are either less likeable or seem smug or make their friends feel less good?
I want to be self aware enough to not gloat about success, but also to have friends who show encouragement.