Bf's kid grosses me out

[Tulipsi]

Hes 12, and just gross. Burps, farts, doesnt clean the toilet after himself, picks nose. Just general gross stuff. Sometimes i wish we didnt have to eat together because it makes me feel ill the way he eats.

I love my bf to pieces though

Does he have any good qualities?
I'd focus on those.
Tbh a lot of 12yo kids will be the same.
Bodily functions and cleaning the loo after use aren't really a priority.
You love your bf very much and he loves his ds.
You are going to have to focus on his good points.

Sounds like a normal preteen tbh

Agree on the good points. However if its your home you set rules.
Clean toilet after use
Replace loo roll or whatever

Manners at the table.

Dsd 9 is very molly coddled by her dm and at home she doesn't even make herself a glass of water, brush her own teeth, put on her own socks etc.
But here she has to. If she uses last of loo roll put another one on, it's slide on slide off so not fiddly. If she wants a drink or food she can help herself it's not waiter service.
Eat at table not on floor to watch tv.

Not harsh rules just general rules /manners..

Children who have bad manners often have parents who have not taught or enforced good manners. Be the one to insist upon good manners. Be clear what behaviour you want to see and reward when you see it. Ask bf to support you.

I think you should end it. His ds will always be in his life. He could potentially live with you for parts of the year if it were to go very far into the relationship.