What are your 5 years old Ds's like?

[hamandcgeese]

My DS is in reception and we've met up with a couple of school friends this holiday for walks and a trip to the play park. But all 3 boys from his class have been strange. I don't know how to put it, maybe it's just the type of child get gets on with Maybe I expect too much? I thought my DS was behind ( as he had a speech delay when younger. He was very late talker, but has had a lot of therapy) their speech and the way they act is very babyish. One was growling a lot when he was frustrated . I know talking to a random parent they might be shy, so not talking about that, just listening to how they act. One child brought a comfort blanket to the play park, they invited us and decided the place. I don't know, there's been no group meet ups so I don't know many of his class.

Mines 5 but yr1, I can think of one kid who's grown when frustrated. He likes dinosaurs. The comforter is less usual but they're still v young

Ds2 has just turned 5. He's overly confident, loves pretend play and making up games. Doesn't need a comforter but would happily carry a teddy or car around to play with. Probably wouldn't talk to a strange grown up for the first 10minutes unless offered sweets or a tablet and then would happily climb into a car and go off with them. Eek.
He might make growling noises as part of play. Pretending to be a dinosaur. His cuddly sloth has a very squeaky voice and is very naughty sometimes. He has a few friends in his foundation class who are similar. In a world of their own when together. Loves to ignore me unless I offer cake, sweets or tablet time.
I joke with dh I would like one of those shy, quiet boys, but probably not really. Maybe. ( I have 2 loud boys)

Yeah maybe my DS acts quite old in a way, ha maybe he's the odd one out.

You haven't said much op apart from roaring and a comforter .. How else did they come across differently?

I have a class of them. They’re all different, and they all have their strengths and quirks.

Many have also not socialised with others for a large part of their memory.

@SleepingStandingUp

You haven't said much op apart from roaring and a comforter .. How else did they come across differently?

I've encountered three different ones this holiday. Growling, baby talk like adding ie to the end of everything. "I ie like ie the ie swingy" One was very much helicopter parented, so not much chance to actually interact. They had no problem using the equipment, but their parent was hoovering constantly. I don't sit on a bench and ignore them, but I don't crowd them.

One was grabbing a lot, like pulling my DS's sleeve constantly trying to pull him over.

Everyone else’s child is weird and annoying apart from your own

@HoneyAndante that is very true.

I don't baby my DS, maybe my expectation of others is too much.

@JackieTheFart of course, I wouldn't say he's annoying apart from when he nags about screen time, which isn't when we are out with others and wants to share my biscuits.

5 year olds currently have had 20% of their life in lockdown / restricted access to peers / disrupted education. There are bound to be some consequences of that. Separate to them all being different anyway.

I have a 5 year old and he’s spent the last year playing with (or competing with) an older sibling rather than friends so consequently appears much older than he is

mine are pretty weird and annoying :o

Anecdotally I noticed in Reception that boys tended to play with boys who were born around the same time of year because they were more likely to be at the same place developmentally. So August born ds had a lot of fellow summer born friends. There's often a massive difference between the September and August borns.

He's much older now and it's not obvious when his friends birthdays are.

Mines weird and annoying.

@hamandcgeese the ie kid has prob had too much Bing

Mine talks AT people but it's like Spanish inquisition. Hello lady what's your name, what's your favourite show, what's you're favourite book etc.

He can be quite anti social so hl wonder off half way through playing because he wants to do something else.

He's pretty obsessed with PJ Masks and Sonic the Hedgehog

@JackieTheFart

Everyone else’s child is weird and annoying apart from your own

Nope. Mine are definitely weird and annoying.

My nearly 5 yr old went through a phase of hissing like a cat with her hands up like claws when she was annoyed - apparently lots of kids in the class were doing it. Sometimes she speaks like a baby, it irritates the fuck out of me so I say I don’t understand unless she talks like a big girl.

DS (4) adds ie to words when he wants something because he thinks I'm more likely to do it if he's 'cute' (it doesn't work). No idea were it came from but could be the reason if their parent is usually a reluctant swing pusher. He can speak properly, and was for years before starting with 'ie' but someone overhearing might think he always talked that way.

He doesn't have a comforter, but would probably ask to take whichever toy he was playing with along to the park. He also may growl if he got frustrated, especially if it fitted in with the game he was playing (eg. Dinosaurs), but equally might hiss like a cat if that was his identity of the day.

What a strange judgmental way to describe it - all children are different. Mine growls when he's angry. He's 4, he still acts very young. Possibly due to spending so long in lockdown and missing so much of his pre school entitlement.
And the helicopter parenting comment? It's very much coming across as a stealth brag. It appears you think your DS is much more advanced and well behaved, but you may as well have just said that rather than start a whole thread to compare other kids to yours so you can marvel at him

I don't baby my DS, maybe my expectation of others is too much.
Yes, it definitely is. I don't know why on earth you'd expect others to parent in a certain way? I honestly don't know what you wanted from this post, congratulations on being a great parent? And comments on how great your DS is? It's all really braggy, bitchy and odd tbh.

@imalmostthere hmmm I did I say that? I have actually said my DS has a speech delay in op. He entered school with a diagnosed delay, I don't know how this is a stealth brag. 🤷‍♀️ We have worked hard with him to try to help catch him up as much as possible. He is actually born on the 31st August so the absolute youngest.

I was actually interested in what others are like his age, after meeting these three boys from his class. Due to DS's speech he didn't really do play dates much at preschool and a combination of lockdown, him being quiet/shy meant not many birthday parties either.

We do socialise with family similar ages and some neighbours occasionally and they don't behave as his school friends do. Maybe there is something in @ForThePurposeOfTheTape theory and due to his delays he befriends others with some kind of delay too? Obviously parents I've just met might not disclose any conditions, I don't say about DS either.