I know that charitable giving/acts of kindness are a big part of Ramadam but can I ask how it works - is it specifically for the poor and needy or can it be more general?
The reason I am asking is because last year my neighbour brought round a piece of (really nice lamb) and some stuff from her allotment. It was really sweet of her, and much appreciated. To be honest, even if I didnt want it I wouldnt have been able to say no because she is a very lovely, old woman and I would hate to offend. But, even though it was a lovely thing to recieve... we arent poor by a long stretch and it worries me if she thought we "needed" it as that feels slightly fraudulent.
For context, we brought some homemade stuff for Christmas and we have a generally good relationship - she gives the children sweets I have helped shift heavy things etc when required. So it feels quite natural to accept/give small gifts. But if they are because she thinks I am poor then I feel I should do something to correct that assumption. because of pride I guess...
I can't ask people in real life because it will look like I am being worried about "status/perception" (which partly I am I guess)