Could anyone help me DS (primary age)

[Woodlandbelle]

I know this morning is busy with the school entry but it's just my ds is so tired lately has become very whiney and a little authoritive (if that's the right way to put it).
He's seven and a very good child.
I don't know is it being back to a routine as school went back here Wednesday. He might be exhausted.
This morning I shouted and both dc cried. Now I am so upset and grew up in a house with parents with a shocking temper.
It's not me to be like this. Sorry I just needed to say it. I feel so bad.
How can I get him to behave.

He is a smart little boy in that he thinks a lot and has a lot to say. You are doing this wrong mum. Why are you doing that? Sort of correcting me all the time. Maybe this is a stage they go through. This morning I threw a out and old toy that was broke and ripped and I didn't realise he was behind me. He watches everything I do. Tries to read my texts. But he is very lovable and I am strict when I need to be.

My 7yr old thinks she is an adult too. I think they emulate adults at that age — I hear myself talking when she speaks! Maybe it’s an age thing. It might drive you mad but there is not necessarily anything wrong if he is whingey and bossy at home. I think I would increase the positive feedback for non-whingey/bossy occasions, positively reinforce the behaviour you want, rather than shouting about the behaviour you don’t appreciate.

I guess a lot of parents and children are tired and strung out — it’s been a terrible year, tempers fray. I sometimes shout at my children but I tend then to apologise for shouting and ask them calmly to stop whatever it is that’s winding me up (sometimes it works...) If you can check your own behaviour and apologise for it maybe your son will see this as normal and learn this skill from you too.

Thank You so much. I've let dh know just to get it off my chest. I do feel guilty. It's been such a hard year and we are all bored and we are still in strict lockdown so not much to look forward to just yet. I'm here cleaning (again) but might do something nice for myself so I am happier in myself as maybe this is what is wrong. Thanks again