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Please give me strength

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Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 21:22

I fell out with someone a few years ago. I knew there was something up with her for a while and one night I scolded her.

I wish I could turn back time because it opened up years of shit. The other person told me I was dead to her and she wanted nothing more to do with me. I was upset at first but I accepted it and I kept busy over the years.

I never knew how bad she was. She has showed years of poison even though I usually ignore her. We don't live in the same locality and we haven't seen each other in years and there's no mutual friends or Facebook. I have taken the necessary steps over the past few years to protect myself like changing my number, slimming down social media, etc and a lot of it worked.

There's a problem in that she is on and off with her abuse. It's all psychological abuse - insults and threats, and trying to sabotage anything good in my life - partner, family and work.

The police refused to help me because she's not threatening to kill me and not showing up on my door step. The same goes for solicitors. They are bouncing me back to the police.

Today my boss came to me to tell me she got more messages from the woman. I'm actually honest to god broken because it's something new again and out of the blue. Just to punish me more because I am happy without her. She's like shylock who wants a pound of flesh out of until she is happy.

How do I get her to stop. The authorities didn't help me when I needed help. She has no right to be contacting my employer.

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Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 21:23

Do I ignore this and hope she stops? What if she decides to make more contact over night to my employer? Or I make contact with her and ask her to stop, not that she will. Or do I take in into the public eye and expose her and the filth she sent me.

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Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 22:33

Anyone

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Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 22:41

I just did something tonight that I never did before. Ate a whole entire packet of biscuits with a bottle of gin and tonics. I feel so so so shit

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Wurrg · 15/04/2021 22:45

Tell your boss to ignore it.

Report it to the police for harassment.

Sounds really awful Flowers

Wallywobbles · 15/04/2021 22:45

God this sounds awful BIL not sure what to suggest. Do you have any really scary mates. Or someone who'd like to take the focus off you?

HollowTalk · 15/04/2021 22:52

What exactly is she doing? Is she talking to you/sending messages to you, or to other people? Do you have any direct contact?

Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 23:03

She was sending me lots of messages. Abusive messages but I changed my number. Then she did other things like fake Facebook for sending messages on messenger. It's been a while since she used messenger. Then she other other avenues - contacting family and partner. They know me so well and they blocked her. It wasn't the first time she made contact with my employer so I don't know what my employer hasn't blocked her and is leaving that route open for her to abuse. I just feel so sick. It came out of nowhere again.

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Iwant2D · 15/04/2021 23:09

It's taking me all the strength in the world not to respond and react although I want to fuck the filthy bitch out from it.

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rjacksmiss · 15/04/2021 23:09

Keep going to the police til they do something. Contacting your work is absolute lunacy. That's harassment!

rjacksmiss · 15/04/2021 23:12

Or - message her back and tell her you forgive her for her for the messages and tell her they haven't hurt you and won't ever hurt you?

rjacksmiss · 15/04/2021 23:12

Or punch her fucking head in

Iwant2D · 16/04/2021 12:45

I'm finding today so so so hard. I didn't want to get up and thought about dieing. I didn't want to get ready and I ha e no energy and I feel so sick.

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