Husband turns 40 soon - help!

[JackieTheFart]

As title really, he turns 40 at the end of May and then it's out 10th anniversary in June.

Don't want to spend too much because a) he doesn't want me to! b) we're hoping to move house soon so keeping every penny together!

I have asked his mate to arrange something with friends which I would be happy to fund, and will probably arrange a night out for us as a family, but what do you get someone for their 40th?!

Ideas please! Preferably under £100, ideally under £50, but something nice. He's not much into 'things', he's had a nice watch from me before and honestly I really am just drawing a blank!

Well, not sure how helpful this is but my husband turned 40 last year and I had a baby on the morning of his birthday - any chance you could arrange that? It totally got me out of having to get a gift...

I got a friend a beautiful drawing of one of her favourite places. It was on Etsy and tbh it was underpriced. My friend was well chuffed with it. It was also drawn from an unusual perspective which I happened to know was her favourite from some of our late night wanderings in London.

Anything personal like that?

Special edition music or book is another idea.

@AppropriateAdult

Well, not sure how helpful this is but my husband turned 40 last year and I had a baby on the morning of his birthday - any chance you could arrange that? It totally got me out of having to get a gift...

Unfortunately the vasectomy means that wouldn't be much of a welcome surprise lol!

@AcornAutumn excellent ideas.

I don't know why I fall to pieces when thinking of gifts?! I take after my dad, but at least I don't then buy the first bit of crap from a garage like he used to...!

Organise transport for him and mates to do pub crawl then Indian and drop home?

Personal item a rose or tree for your new garden

A picnic together, visiting an art gallery/museum/exposition he may have an interest in, movie night? It does not need to be a physical present. Quality time together is often much better.

"What would you like for your birthday?"
There. Easy. Just ask him.

If he's getting a mates night out, a family meal out and doesn't like stuff, he'll probably be happy with something like a nice bottle of whisky, gin, wine or whatever if he drinks alcohol. And/or some nice chocolates.

Or what about some sort of 'coffee table book' about something he's interested in? Something he can flick through.

But don't feel like you have to buy him something. He's really probably not that bothered.

Agree about spending quality time together, that's much better than any gift possible! Go to the art or dancing or cooking (or whatever) class together, if the restrictions let so and he enjoys things like that. There are also websites where you can compose your own song for somebody, something like www.yoursongmaker.com/ or demomysong.com/tree/make-your-own-song/ can help you. if there is any friend who plays music instruments, you can cooperate and record something on your own! A birthday video card is also a thing to try.
In general, I think a takeaway from his favorite place, a bottle of good wine and time spent together would be a great option!

@Ilovemaisie

"What would you like for your birthday?" There. Easy. Just ask him.

The answer was “nothing” and I’m not willing to do/give nothing!

I think you’re probably all right, he’d prefer doing a thing rather than getting a thing

So, I have contacted one of our close mates and have asked him to contact their mutual male pals (Ones that I don’t know I mean) and he has said he’ll host a BBQ party for us which is nice of him. Of course if we can complete on our house move in six weeks we’ll do it at ours

(That’s definitely not going to happen lol!)