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Original poster

Car tracker- has anyone bought one please- needed to track lying husband

58 replies

StepthatPussyUp · 14/04/2021 08:47

I want evidence before I approach husband and ask him to leave - a chance encounter and an anonymous email has set off this chain of events.

As the title suggests I need a great tracker - I have read reviews and many say they have difficulty in setting up/poor life battery etc so I’m after recommendations here so I can get the proof I need before I take next steps

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HedgleyTheHedgehog · 14/04/2021 09:00

Easier to use a smartphone with location being tracked, Find my Friends app for example

EasterIssland · 14/04/2021 09:02

Is this legal?

MedusasBadHairDay · 14/04/2021 09:02

Or you could just leave him? A tracker seems like a waste of time and money (and also a really stupid thing to do) when you've clearly already lost all trust in him and the relationship.

Original poster
StepthatPussyUp · 14/04/2021 09:03

I was told it was legal with a car tracker yes

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KoalaOok · 14/04/2021 09:03

Could you not just ask him about the information you have recieved?

LlamaGiles · 14/04/2021 09:04

Hm I think this is really dodgy territory. If a woman came on here saying her DH was tracking her car we'd all be saying it's abusive.

EasterIssland · 14/04/2021 09:06

Are you the owner of the car?
the general consensus is that if you want to put a tracker on someone's car, even if that person is your spouse, you need the owner's consent. It is a criminal offence to place a tracking device on a vehicle that you do not own.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 14/04/2021 09:06

You will likely find yourself arrested if you do this. It will come under the bracket of controlling and coercive behaviour.

EasterIssland · 14/04/2021 09:06

@LlamaGiles

Hm I think this is really dodgy territory. If a woman came on here saying her DH was tracking her car we'd all be saying it's abusive.
agree . not long ago there was a similar thread and people directed the OP to the police
MedusasBadHairDay · 14/04/2021 09:06

@StepthatPussyUp

I was told it was legal with a car tracker yes
Pretty sure I'd heard its only legal if the person driving the tracked vehicle is notified that it's tracked.
PineappleUpside · 14/04/2021 09:07

I wouldn't bother with 'proof'. If you don't want to be married anymore get divorced.

You must think that what you have been told is true or you would have dismissed it immediately. So it's already over.

MedusasBadHairDay · 14/04/2021 09:08

@LlamaGiles

Hm I think this is really dodgy territory. If a woman came on here saying her DH was tracking her car we'd all be saying it's abusive.
Also this.

It's dodgy behaviour, needlessly dodgy too. You clearly aren't happy with him, what difference will the tracking make?

caringcarer · 14/04/2021 09:08

Buy s cheap phone, put a tracking app on it and hide it in his car boot.

Original poster
StepthatPussyUp · 14/04/2021 09:10

I had no idea you needed consent - I do own the car yes but don’t want to do anything illegal
Thanks all

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Sparklfairy · 14/04/2021 09:11

Dont do this, it's really awful, lies or not.

What will you do if the tracker shows him to be innocent? Stay and lie to him (by omission) that you invaded his privacy? Your marriage is over; there is no trust. Just leave.

crunchiebabe · 14/04/2021 09:13

I caught my ex this way ! I would recommend it

EarringsandLipstick · 14/04/2021 09:14

Your marriage is over; there is no trust. Just leave.

Absolutely this.

EarringsandLipstick · 14/04/2021 09:15

@crunchiebabe

I caught my ex this way ! I would recommend it
Why do you need to 'catch' someone? If you are at a point in your relationship where you want to track & 'catch' your partner out, it's over.

The proof is unnecessary. And it's a horrible way to behave.

crunchiebabe · 14/04/2021 09:19

It is not a " horrible way" to behave
His cheating was a horrible way to behave !
He lied , and lied repeatedly ! I took control that's all . These are not normal decent men , these are cheating bastards !

rentnotsub · 14/04/2021 09:21

So if you owned a second phone with "find my phone" software on, and left it in the car that you own, that wouldn't be illegal.

EarringsandLipstick · 14/04/2021 09:24

@crunchiebabe

It is not a " horrible way" to behave His cheating was a horrible way to behave ! He lied , and lied repeatedly ! I took control that's all . These are not normal decent men , these are cheating bastards !
So what? Yes, if he's a cheating bastard, you end it. Why go down the route of tracking him?

If you already doubted him, it's over.

Sparklfairy · 14/04/2021 09:26

@crunchiebabe just because your ex lacked moral fibre, that doesnt mean you have to sink to his level and invade his privacy - and essentially stalk him.

Its batshit, irrational behaviour. I would leave a partner for doing this and tell everyone what a psycho they were.

EarringsandLipstick · 14/04/2021 09:27

Well put Sparkl

GappyValley · 14/04/2021 09:30

Get a cheap smartphone and download Life360 and leave it in the car.
Nothing illegal with being a bit forgetful with where you leave your things.

And ignore all the batshit ‘oh if you have any sort of wavering trust, that automatically means your marriage is over’ posts

They only exist on drama llama MN threads. No one in real life actually believes this.
It’s entirely normal to want to get to the bottom of it when you’re suspicions have been raised.

MedusasBadHairDay · 14/04/2021 09:32

I think wanting to use a tracker is a little more than "wavering trust", I'd say that if you are at a point where you are considering illegal stalker type behaviour then trust has done a little more than waver.