Hi everyone, need some advice from you all, think it's useful to get other peoples perspectives. So I have been married for 10 years with two children. Let me set the scene so about a month or two after our wedding I found that my husband was messaging three other women, one was his boss asking her to come to his office and saying flirty things like I loved that dress your in and your legs etc, one was a colleague and the other his friends wife! Confronted him at the time and I have tried so hard to get over it but I just can't 10 years on it still hurts just the same, over the years there have been other behaviours than I don't like up to current day still, he goes through phases of watching porn, he can stay up late doing that but never comes to bed with me which I have told him hurts me. About a year ago he contacted a woman he used to hang around with but hasn't spoken to for 15 years he asked her to meet up for coffee, but I don't trust his intentions at all, was a bit random, it never happened as far as I know. I have tried so hard to be happy but I'm not if I'm honest and these things that have happened and are still happening are destroying me as a person. My anxiety levels are through the roof, surely this isn't a healthy relationship.