Living vicariously through your kids (light hearted)

[Sweetcheekblues]

So I have 3 DDs 10, 7 & 4 yo, today I got my 10 & 7yos to agree that I can not only pick their wedding dresses out but I get to be their wedding planners, apparently I can pick EVERYTHING for them when they get married. My 10 year old has said for years she’s not interested in getting married or having children but if it shuts me up she will get married just so I can plan it 😆 When I asked my 4 yo her response was NO, so I’m thinking ok 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.

10 year olds only condition is I pay for everything. 7 yo says she wants to pay because she’s going to be rich and pay for me when she’s older anyway.

I’m thinking of getting them to put in writing in case they change their minds, do you think I could get them to stick to it when they are older?

By the way I’ve totally already got all 3 weddings fully planned out in my head, as well as that, I’ve started a wedding folder for them to add bits to as they grow up. I can’t wait to be a mother of the bridezilla and if I’m lucky I will get to do it three times 😂

Anyone else out there who likes to live vicariously through their kids?

I know you are kidding OP - but I can't imagine having any thoughts about either of my kids' weddings. I have said I don't care if my daughter marries a Nice Jewish Boy at the Park Lane Hilton, or her girlfriend at a leather bar in San Francisco (although frankly the latter would be loads more fun!)

I'm hoping, and it's looking like, DD will be into wacky clothes and hair in her teens like I was, so I'm quite looking forward to that and helping her get crazy haircuts and so on, I suppose.

I never got the big white wedding I always dreamed off where I had a whole day where the attention was on me and money wasn’t an issue so I want my DDs to never have to worry about that

They aren’t going to have that though are they? Their weddings will be all about you and what you want.

I’d be planning to elope if I were them 😂

I'm all for marriage as a legal financial agreement! It's a savvy business arrangement if you're in a couple with children.

Unfortunately, the best way to put your daughters off a big white wedding is to bang on about it and produce a wedding folder which they are encouraged to "add bits to as they get older". That's a little over invested!

Glad to hear your girls have already travelled the world, are excelling in academia and sports and have amazing wit and humour though.