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Is My Friendship over?

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MyBellarina · 11/04/2021 21:37

I have been best Friend's with a incredibly kind person for 10 years. Over the Years We have changed as People in some ways and have different priorities. Over covid it has been hard to stay in contact on Their side. I'm upset as feel hurt are the sudden change in behaviour. I know all is fine with them but they are too busy with work and have a new Partner.
They read my messages on Whatapp but do not reply for days even months sometimes. I messaged them last week saying its hard at the moment etc and I understand if they are busy but feel a drift between us and asked why they haven't been replying to Me. They replied straight away saying they dont want Us to drift apart but then continued the same behaviour. I love them and I'm getting married next Year and want them to take at least some interest in my Wedding and Me but I'm not sure if I'm trying to hold on to a dead friendship. Would appreciate any advice. I can obviously give more details if wanted.

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Bul21ia · 11/04/2021 21:39

I think people do drift apart. Especially when people have partners you tend to hear from them less. Not replying to a message for over a month though is a no no!

Let it fade OP. Focus on yourself.

Casmama · 11/04/2021 21:41

Some friendships struggle with not seeing each other in person and she may have really been struggling over lockdown I would see if you can meet up when possible to do so and see how things go from there

MyBellarina · 11/04/2021 21:43

People do drift apart sadly. We both used to work in cosmetics. He still does but I now work with Animals which I adore. He has suffered with depression over the years... so I'm always very patient and know He sometimes needs time alone. Bit He has been posting alot of days out with new Partner both Men on Facebook.

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lborgia · 11/04/2021 21:44

When you say new partner, do you mean recently started living with someone?

Given the current situation, it would flit across my mind to check that there's no kind of isolation tactics or other abuse going on.

If you're sure on that score, then just crack on as if they're just Christmas card friends, and if they come back, with some kind of reasoning, have another think at that point.

I'm sorry. It sucks.

MyBellarina · 11/04/2021 21:45

He suggested meeting up last week and I told Him when I was free and He hasn't even opened it.

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Miseryl · 11/04/2021 21:52

Why have you purposely omitted their sex?

Miseryl · 11/04/2021 21:53

Cross posted- I can see he is a male.

MyBellarina · 11/04/2021 21:55

New Partner but not living together. I see your point. I would be surprised if that were the case though.

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MyBellarina · 11/04/2021 21:55

Haha. Don't know why. Thank you for Your advice Guys.

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