What situations make you feel vulnerable as a female?

[bjjgirl]

I was chatting with a friend who said she feels scared walking to her car at night in a car park, which isn't something that bothers me. Personally I get really nervous in crowded pubs etc.

What situations cause you anxiety?

Lifts

Having to walk through an underpass at night.
Being on a train when there's a group of lads drinking around me.

I often walk home late at night . I dont mind doing so really but there is a strip of road I walk down where it's really badly lit. And hedges/bushes and point where there's a cut through to a cul-de-sac. I hate walking that part.

Gosh there's so many situations

Marriage

Life

underpasses

Trains at night

Just get some males colleagues talking whilst drunk and find out what far too many some think and say about female colleagues out of earshot/on apps - then you can add "the office" onto the list.

All the time! Certain playgrounds I don't go to without DP as they are so isolated, woodland walks I won't take the children on solo... Its a long list.
My window cleaner scared me once by stepping into the porch for his payment. I was alone with the kids and him stepping over that actual boundary means now that DP is wfh he deals with him.

Walking home at night. That’s it. I often go for long walks through isolated woods, figuring I’d have to be very unlucky for a mad man to be following me / waiting there.

Recently visited a friend living in a block of flats. She buzzed the front door open and as I went in, four older teenage boys pushed into reception behind me. Then into the lift with me.
I was very uncomfortable but got out on friend's floor and they went on up. I told friend and she rang the police .
Turns out a vulnerable woman was being targeted by a drug dealer. Police arrived, made arrests, now that flat is sealed and vulnerable lady has been moved. Quite scary really.

I'm impressed with friend though, no hesitation, didn't take any shit.

Whenever I am dressed up and look nice. I don't even have to be walking somewhere dark or remote. The leering and comments as I walk by men/boys as if they have never seen a woman before rolls eyes

Creepy neighbour.

Online dating - given up on it.

Friendships with males - have very few. Usually very disappointing.

Walking for exercise or to the shops.

Hiring a tradesman or using services where a man knows you're single and manipulates that - have been ripped off one too many times.

Oh and workmen coming into my home. I normally arrange for a friend or a relative to be with me. The odd occasion I've been on my own, the workman has always become overly flirtatious and it's just vomit inducing, and you never know where it's going to go. I'm not even vaguely friendly.

Sometimes I can understand why muslim women wear burqas.

Anywhere a bit secluded, day or night.

Apart from the obvious walking home at night or secluded areas - I always feel uncomfortable walking past a large group of men. Almost always one of them will make some sort of comment or stare or something to provoke a reaction from the others.

Yes, same as all above and l also strongly dislike going into a garage to have work done on my car. Never feel that comfortable.

Never used to feel comfortable in a taxi. By choice I would take the night bus. However, I can't walk far now without getting out of breath so am having to take taxis when going to and fro from work (awaiting drs appointment on Monday). So am getting rather used to it.

Walking past pubs.
Walking past groups of men/male youths
Darkness
Car parks (multi-storey or underground)
Workmen in the house (dreading the loft conversion we’ve planned this summer)

Ah yes getting into taxis or a train/tube carriage (remember my commute before lockdown!). I'd check out a carriage for lone or groups of men before getting on. Avoided carriages full of men, or one with a single man.

Going to the loo at train stations and using changing rooms - I always get a creepy feeling there are Peeping Toms?!

Dealing with workmen, leave my other half to deal with them. The path that runs behind my house. One day a man stepped out from behind the bushes right in front of me. I nearly had kittens. He was no one I recognised and no idea what he was doing there. Damn silly thing to do. Ive got to say Im an older lady but still wary of men. This is due to experiences when young.

Being home alone overnight- I keep thinking someone might break in and hurt me.

I won't let a male engineer/ workman into the house if I'm alone.

Working late with only male colleagues.

Going to pubs/ clubs.

Going on public transport after dark.

Walking after dark alone.

Quiet public toilets.