It is 3.57am

[GoldilocksAndTheThreePears]

and I am sitting listening to my neighbour yell. Started at 11pm yesterday. I couldn't work it out for ages, it sounded like it was outside and echoing, but turns out he is in the flat next to me with window wide open, so the sound is coming from in and outside. It isn't anger, more like a very exciting conversation that's gone on for 5 hours. I knocked at 1.30am when I realised it wasn't stopping, then a few times between then and 3 and gave up. Either it's too loud or they are ignoring. Doesn't seem to be bothering anyone else in the building, well no one else has knocked. I left a note, very polite, but I regret, I've had major scary issues with neighbours in the past elsewhere so I shy away. For context I'm a physically disabled very ill woman living alone so I'm cautious.

I don't know why I'm even writing this. I feel so crap, I keep nodding off for a second then jerking awake when he yells again. I'm just so miserable, I've done all I can I think, knocked even though I really hate confrontation and left a note which I know they got, it's gone from under the door but it's still so loud. I think it's a group, I hear others laughing occasionally but this one bloke, voice carries so much. Carries right through earplugs which I find too uncomfortable to sleep in anyway.

Tomorrow I'll be trying to sleep on the sofa, as my downstairs neighbours have the tumble dryer in the bedroom under mine and tend to run it most days. I live in a really classy place.

@GoldilocksAndTheThreePears
Call the cops

There's been a terrible domestic incident in my street tonight and the police and an ambulance came

I can't get back to sleep so have come downstairs for a cup of tea.

I wouldn't not for this, though it's tempting just get them to shut up! But last time I called they didn't even show up, someone broke in through a window in one of the flats, the residents pushed him into the communal hall and he just screamed and tried to break the front doors into flats, including mine. I called the police, absolutely terrified he would get in. Didn't bother to send anyone. Eventually he broke the front door getting out and wondered into town.

I did at the time make a post here, I forgot about that, asking for a handhold as I was alone and terrified but someone said why are you even posting this. I guess to see there are other people out there, not just me alone

Sounds awful, I agree report him. Not sure on rules where you live but should the neighbour have people visiting anyway? Unless they all live together normally of course. Might help you in this instance.

Oh no @bellropes that sounds awful, at least I know this doesn't sound at all angry/abusive yelling, just selfish arsehole yelling.

Nights like this always leave me looking at property sites to try and move and I see there isn't a single property to rent, at any price, within 15 miles of my town. This is a weird time!

I'm in England, but I'm honestly not sure if there are different rules in different areas? I haven't been keeping up as I'm immuno whatsit, so I'm just staying in with no bubbles or whathaveyou!

The flats on that side are 4 bedroom so I think a group live there, I know it isn't a family, I think sharers but no idea how many. I did complain to landlord last time they had an all night party and the guests leaving were very noisy, but I worry about complaining too much and ending up homeless. Housing is in such short supply in Cornwall, it's risky drawing attention

gaming? Maybe he has headphones on?

I have no advice, other than ringing the police, but I understand why you wouldn't want to do this.
If your neighbour has got people around, he is an inconsiderate shit. I hate people like this. No thought for others.
I hope you manage to get some shut - eye. Look after yourself, op.

That is awful. There is nothing worse than bad neighbours, it really affects you. Wonder why they are up at this time? Is it a one off event with them ? I guess if it continues , you will have to report it to their landlord and tell him you will call the police if he does not sort it out .
Would you be eligible for some better housing , council ? Where you would feel safer and have help nearby - I guess some sort of sheltered accommodation.
Hope you get some sleep later .

Is it any better now OP?

@bellropes

There's been a terrible domestic incident in my street tonight and the police and an ambulance came

I can't get back to sleep so have come downstairs for a cup of tea.

Sounds horrible, poor you, I’ve been watching Murder 24/7 for five hours, maybe not the best way to nod off! Now your post has given me the heebie jeebies and I can’t go to sleep now!

Sadly still yawping away, I'm in the living room so slightly further away so it's less startling, not making me jump. It's put me right on edge, constant exclamations. I'm very used to noise here, downstairs love to stomp and play loud music but usually in the day, while these neighbours to the side love untz untz dance music and singing along, but usually stops 2-2.30am. This is a whole new thing! I did consider it may be gaming, but there are definitely more than the shouter in there as I hear them replying and laughing very occasionally. So I wonder if it's sport. Who knows.

I'm not sure what I'd do if I lost this flat, I truly hate it but I really need it. I'm getting to a point physically where I will have a move, just don't know where. It's a bath with shower over and I really struggle more and more getting my legs over, and I'm up 2 flights and it takes me ages to get down and back up. I do think I'd sooner live in a garden shed than in flats again! Because I am able to pay rent and bills etc, with my PIP and ESA, I haven't really looked into council housing, but I know there is a shortage here. No idea how I'd even go about it.

Ideally, I'd love to live in a retirement flat usually seem to have big showers with bars to grab, and rails by the loo, and a button to press if you fall which I worry I will. Sadly 30 years too young. But they do look so ideal.

@Zacana

The shouting woke me up and I felt scared and went cold.

OP I hope they shut up soon.

@bellropes hope the tea settles you. I just woke up with a noise in the street but not a commotion and it's quiet again.

[quote bellropes]@Zacana

The shouting woke me up and I felt scared and went cold.[/quote]
Horrible for you, I’m not usually nervy, I’m the sort that will go outside in the dark if I hear a noise but for some reason, after reading the thread and then watching true crime in uk programmes since midnight until 6am, still awake now! Hopefully, we’ll all be able to sleep tonight soundly.

I am not in UK , but surely if you have a disability and in receipt of PIP you should have access to purpose built accommodation. At least enquire about it ? And despite your age , you may be eligible for retirement style flat too.
Do you have anyone in your life you could help you with that ?

Thanks for keeping me company last night, anyone who commented. I finally got some sleep this afternoon, 4 hours but better than nothing. Mornings are awful to sleep through here because of seagulls and supermarket deliveries and opening, I'm right by a supermarket.

@bellropes hope you're doing better after last night too

@Stillfunny I've never heard of purpose built, is this a thing everywhere? My assumption has always been if you can afford private rent, try and get something, if you can't then you can apply for council housing. I don't know about eligibility for retirement flats, they always say no under 60s and there are a ton of them but all for sale not rent. Ironically I do have enough for a deposit but being on benefits means I can never get a mortgage!

Haven't heard from next door at all except someone crashed on my door 20 mins ago waking me up. Not a knock, more like banged with an object or open palm. No one there when I opened the door, just their music blaring so no proof it was them. I really regret saying anything, I should have just put up with it.