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Completely unreasonable and irrational conclusions you’ve made

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UhtredRagnarson · 08/04/2021 21:15

Inspired by the topic of another thread I have been reminded that for reasons I can’t fathom I believe that houses that have the big light on in the living room of an evening must be chaotic homes. I hate the big light on and I hate seeing it in other homes if I’m out for a walk. No idea why. It doesn’t affect me at all.

What’s yours?

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DareIask · 08/04/2021 23:37

[quote UkSky]@DareIask our lamps are connected to Alexa. We have different settings for various ambience.

So, if we're watching a movie, we say Alexa movie lighting and they dim and change colour.

My life has been transformed.

However DH freaked my out when I was home alone and he changed the lights from his phone Shock[/quote]
I've thought about this, and it's a maybe.

Dimming and changing colour is impressive

WhistlersandJugglers · 08/04/2021 23:40

Doesn't sunlight disinfect washing when it's hanging on the line? I thought it does but I could be totally wrong.

GreenSlide · 08/04/2021 23:42

Line dried clothes are heaven Blush sometimes I hang mine out at the end of the day and then they're dry by lunchtime the next day. I don't mind if they get darked on.

Bloodybridget · 08/04/2021 23:42

We never used to have the Big Light on in Casa Bridget, but I can't see to read at night without it now. Keep meaning to get a standard lamp for the sofa side of the living room.

EasterBunny21 · 08/04/2021 23:48

Not sure if it’ll be seen as a positive or a negative on this thread to have 8 spotlights controlled by Alexa/a phone app so I can have any number of them on at once and at whichever brightness I choose.

So we tend to have either 4 or 8 of our (small) big lights on at night but dimmed to a very low percentage.

WhistlersandJugglers · 08/04/2021 23:49

I'd love to have an immaculate car but I'm inclined to eat crisps in there and uninclined to find an extension cord and hoover the crumbs. I think people with clean cars are the real adults.

Northernsoullover · 08/04/2021 23:50

A bulb went in the far end of the kitchen and tripped the switch. That was 6 months ago. I have not reset it and now have no big lights in most of the house. Its lovely.

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UhtredRagnarson · 08/04/2021 23:55

@FizzyPink

Oh god my DP is one of those difficult people with an immaculate car. He even bought an extra long extension lead so that he could Hoover it more easily Blush
He could get a cordless Henry... Grin
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Cowbells · 08/04/2021 23:57

I can't believe you are all so obsessed with the Big Light when a PP has already mentioned vertical blinds. I automatically assume they are for people who think that just because they have a life doesn't mean they should fritter it away with any living. Beige vertical blinds put an end to all that enjoying living nonsense.

noblegreenk · 09/04/2021 00:09

@Fuckingcrustybread

I have a very irrational hatred towards people who say someone has passed. Or someone's passing. The person is dead. They have died, no euphemism will change the fact that the person is dead. I just can't be doing with these twee phrases. My Uncle Tom dropped dead in front of me when I was 8, my brother died when he was 19, I was 18. I'm probably quite callous about death but let's face it, death is one of the certainties of life.
Yes! I with you on this.

But God forbid you actually say that someone died or is dead, because everyone looks at you like you're the most insensitive prick going. I wonder of this is trait of people who've experienced a lot of bereavement? Like you, I've seen a lot of very close family die over the years and it just doesn't hold any taboo for me anymore.

nov2021bw · 09/04/2021 00:56

@Wriggleout

Drying my washing outside is somehow healthier than in the tumble dryer. Not even I can effectively rationalise this one in my head
I'm the same, I feel that tumble dried washing is dirty and full of dust. Completely ridiculous I know. ConfusedConfused
MysweetAudrina · 09/04/2021 07:12

Hate big lights. When I am out walking I often look to see if I can spot a window with a naked big light bulb on and when I do I like to acknowledge their cold, lonely, pitiful existence. Dh dared to put the wall lights on the other night as he thought he needed to see the sandwich he was eating for some reason. I hopped up and righted things when he left to get a drink.

riverrunner · 09/04/2021 07:35

@Cowbells

I can't believe you are all so obsessed with the Big Light when a PP has already mentioned vertical blinds. I automatically assume they are for people who think that just because they have a life doesn't mean they should fritter it away with any living. Beige vertical blinds put an end to all that enjoying living nonsense.
Exactly. But they’re evil as well as joyless!
Divebar2021 · 09/04/2021 07:39

But God forbid you actually say that someone died or is dead, because everyone looks at you like you're the most insensitive prick going

I’m a police officer and we were trained to say “died” so that when delivering bad news there was absolutely no doubt left in the persons mind as to what had happened. I have seen references to “ passing over” in internal communications though and it does feel a bit Doris Stokes to me. The only mitigation I’ve ever seen was someone who was so devastated by a relatives death that they couldn’t actually bring themselves to say died because it was too difficult for them. I can understand that somewhat but I don’t think it applies to most people. We would be better off speaking about death more often in practical terms and being open about it. Using euphemisms isn’t a kindness if you then cross over to avoid a bereaved person.

StarsonaString · 09/04/2021 11:05

People who have vertical blinds lack a soul probably. When I moved into this house, all the windows had broken ones. The house was also painted in greys and brown with really manky black carpet. I knew they were wrong uns and the neighbors confirmed.

I do have the big light on but its a dimmable bulb that isn't bright even at full and its at one end of a long room. Its actually brighter if I use my lamps.

I don't trust people with overly twee gardens (lots of plastic ornaments, regimented marigolds etc.) as I think they may be secretly serial killers.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 09/04/2021 11:12

I have to remove spiders etc from my car before travelling anywhere as otherwise their family will be looking for them. I can't drive them elsewhere.

Hanging washing outside to dry makes your clothes a bit dirty again.

AllTheWayFromLondonDAMN · 09/04/2021 11:17

The big light is most definitely for lost stuff and emergencies only. Husband comes from a big light house and his family are savages, so that checks out.

riverrunner · 09/04/2021 11:19

I don't trust people with overly twee gardens (lots of plastic ornaments, regimented marigolds etc.) as I think they may be secretly serial killers.

Yes, indeed. Someone who lives near my PILs does this, and, to add to their misdemeanours decorates their entire front garden seasonally in an incredibly sinister fashion.

At Christmas there was a shop window mannequin wearing a Santa costume, surrounded by light-up reindeer of different sizes, some dragging various sizes of sleigh filled with Elf on the Shelf type elves and garden gnomes wearing Santa hats.

For Easter, the same shop window mannequin is wearing a fluffy onesie with a rabbit tail and fluffy ears on a hairband, and the garden gnomes and Elf on the Shelf elves are frolicking with baskets of eggs.

I swear, I speed up when we pass it in case the Easter Bunny/Santa Claus comes after me with outstretched arms and dead eyes. Shock

I've never laid eyes on the owners, but I realise that if I did, I would expect them to resemble Fred and Rose West.

Timeforatincture · 09/04/2021 11:25

I can't be doing with banging about in the dark.

I have the big light on AND all the lamps.

Call 101

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UhtredRagnarson · 09/04/2021 11:32

If your living room/kitchen is to the left of your front door you’re a wrong’un.

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Deathraystare · 09/04/2021 11:37

Well I hate going round to people's homes and they won't put the big light on so I am reading in the dark. I want to see!

StarsonaString · 09/04/2021 11:43

@UhtredRagnarson

If your living room/kitchen is to the left of your front door you’re a wrong’un.
My door is in the middle of my house with the sitting room to the left and kitchen to the right. Cannot win. Grin
RedRec · 09/04/2021 11:47

My house is far from the tidiest but my car is clean and junk free. I cannot understand how some people are happy to drive around in absolute shit tips.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 09/04/2021 11:49

We are big light people. I appreciate the ambiance at others houses with their lamps but find it a bit gloomy.

We also very rarely close the curtains, upstairs or down.

ADragonCalledKeith · 09/04/2021 11:58

My gran always said if someone has their curtains open and big light on, they WANT you to look in!

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