My abuser is on trial please can I have a handhold

[Hesontrial]

It’s taken a long time to get to this point but now I’m shaky! Worried about his reaction to result either way

A hand hold from here......

Crossing everything for you.

Thank you kind strangers! Am signing up for The Freedom Programme whilst I wait -seemed a constructive thing to do

All the best. Let's hope for a good (for you) outcome!

Have a hand-hold and

That would be nervewracking, but you're doing the right thing

Oh gosh, how brave you are.
Handhold here too, hope you get the right result.

Hand holding here not squeezing too tightly.
Hope everything goes well for you and it’s not too stressful

You are so brave. Handhold here, kia kaha (keep strong).

This could be the start of a whole new chapter, good luck with trial and freedom programme. Don't look too far ahead lots of hands to hold here.

Handhold from me I hope you're okay and get the outcome you want

Fingers crossed that you get the result you deserve. Even if you don’t, we believe you. The freedom programme will help you to make sense of what’s happened and help you move forward. Best of luck XX

Handhold from me 🌺🌺

Big tight hand hold from me OP.
Stay safe.

Handholding here too 💐

Postponed!

.....which means another eight months without the restraining order :(

Happening not just here in south-east but all over apparently, because of Covid.

Ah well, can still do the Freedom Programme.....

Well done on getting to this stage. No matter the outcome be proud of yourself for coming so far. Everything crossed for you

I'm sorry, OP, that sucks.

Can you apply for a non-molestation order? Have you spoken with Women's Aid?

That’s rubbish. Does he have bail with conditions? If not and he does make contact there are other offences such as harassment/ witness intimidation. Please make sure to continue to report

Huge handhold, OP- especially during a time where trauma and old wounds are reopened/revisited. Remember, those stains and scars you carry are reminders of what used to be, not markers of what is now or yet to come.

Keep on moving forward. Focus on where you are now, not where you were. Keep working towards healing. May you get the justice you so wholly deserve.

OverByYer and everyone, thank you.
I have indeed come a long way.

Postponed! .....which means another eight months without the restraining order

Oh shit. Just read this. I had the same, years ago... 9 months postponement.
I had a restraining order. I wish I could remember it all now. It's 15 years ago, but I had one in place. I had to apply for a non-molestation order first and then after 3 months, got the restraining order in place. My brain's a bit fuzzy on the details.

Get a non molestation order.
Do you have a DV charity or IDVA involved?
You can either go to a solicitor if you’re eligible for legal aid to sort it out, or you can apply to the court yourself to get one.
If he’s still on bail, or released under investigation and he breaches it, report to 101, and ask for it to be placed on the file. It probably will anyway but just incase. Have you had other safety measures put in? Markers etc.

Vanguard yes a friend has had similar. And Fringe yes I have discovered the power of 101!
I feel safer now neighbourhood policing team are involved - I had previously despaired of police help (weaponising the police was always His tactic) but the latest incident seems to have made them realise where the problem lies.
Thanks for handhold! Onwards and upwards to clarity and safety.

If you’re out and about and nervous of coming across him etc, the Hollieguard app is quite useful btw.
Best of luck Op