Posted in parenting previously but posting here for traffic.
My DD had a meltdown this weekend after taking some Snapchat photos of me and her (it’s my Snapchat, but she uses it and has her dad and his wife on there, amongst other friends/family).
She asked me to save them and I put them on “my story”. She got really upset that I had “sent them” to them both. She was inconsolable for about 5 minutes, when she calmed down slightly I asked her what she was worried about and she said “I don’t want them to know that it’s not as good there as it is here, I don’t want them to know they’re not as good as you”.
I reassured her that she has a life here and a life when she’s with her dad, that I know there will be photos of her with them and that’s it’s ok, that she can have fun here and there etc etc.
It’s really made me think. It worries me that she feels so responsible for his feelings. My biggest concern when I left him was the impact his issues would have on her and unfortunately it looks like that is happening. I’m worried I am saying the wrong things to her.
What can I do to help her? How can I help her see that it isn’t her job to keep him happy?