Boyfriend not being supportive

[Preg97]

Hi all I’m new to this so don’t really know how it works haha!
I found out on Monday that I’m pregnant which was totally unexpected! When I told my Bf he got very angry straight away and told me he wants an abortion, something I don’t really believe in ( I have nothing against it or anyone who chooses that route but me personally I couldn’t see me myself doing that. I made myself very clear I don’t want an abortion and now I’m being told that I am selfish, messing up his life and now thinking about the relationship. But him forcing me to have an abortion isn’t thinking about the relationship either!
He’s now accepted the fact that I’m keeping the baby but he really isn’t happy with it and and giving me little digs every chance he possibles gets, he has told me he wants to stay with me but he doesn’t love me anymore for doing this to him, although we’ll be together he won’t support me just the baby. He won’t come to any scans as he doesn’t see the point.
This is my first pregnancy and I really want everything to go perfect! I’m only 5 weeks so I’m scared about all the risks that’s comes with the first 12 weeks and he’s not making it any easier. We’re both adults (24+27) both have stable jobs, we’re not in the best situation but we’re not in the worst! And I’m very blessed to have a very supportive family which he also doesn’t want as he thinks I’m being too dependent on others.
I’m just really confused, upset and morning sickness does not make it any better haha! I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to do this alone but I also don’t want to bring a baby into something like this. I know ultimately whatever happens I have the power and strength to do it without it but being only 24 abs only loosing my mom 3 months ago I’d really love that family unit my parents had when I was growing up!
It’s a sad time loosing my mom and falling pregnant not long after but I feel it’s also a blessing, almost a like a message from my mom that she’s with me, something he doesn’t understand either.
What should I do? Any advice?
Thanks in advance! Xx

@gnushoes

Two month old relationship? Living with your dad? Blessing from your mum? There are red flags all over the place. You're grieving your mum and not thinking straight. Your dad may not be overjoyed to be seen as childcare/support for years to come. Can see why your boyfriend isn't happy. And you're very young. Please go for some counselling before making a final decision on this.

She’s 24 but you can be forgiven for thinking she’s much younger than that

He sounds absolutely horrible. You aren’t going to get a perfect family unit with him - he’s a dickhead. I think you have to make your plans without factoring him in.

I told him not one of us are to blame but we both could of done more to prevent it but he says it’s down to me and not taking the right steps

He needs some basic biology lessons, for a start. His sperm impregnated you; he’s yet another man totally absolving himself of responsibility for reproduction and not cottoning on that if you have sex you can get pregnant.

It is both parties’ responsibility to ensure adequate protection is in place, or be prepared for the consequences.

He may calm down with time. But, given his instant reaction to blame you and say contraception is all your fault, I’m not sure I would be wanting much to do with him.