Is this silly for a wedding?

[User35r7r8]

We have a UK holiday booked for early July and I'm thinking we could possibly get married in the morning at the local registry office and then go on holiday in the afternoon, no reception or anything.
It would just be us, our kids, parents, siblings and a few aunts and uncles, 15 people in total.
It would basically mean everyone turns up see us get married a few pics in the nice grounds of the registry office (taken by family) then they all get on with their day and we go home, get changed and go on holiday, do you think people would think it was pointless, especially as it may mean a day's annual leave for some of the guests?

I would have done it the day before we went and possibly have invited everyone back to ours for an afternoon tea type thing but this is the only day available in the week between schools finishing and us going on holiday and also restrictions may not allow for that type of thing by then. Honestly the idea of a party that is basically about us is really not our thing and if i didn't think both sets of parents would be upset I would actually just get married in the registry office local to our holiday with 2 random witnesses but that would just cause too much upset.

Just do a quick little something afterwards with all those invited to mark the occasion. Apart from that, sounds perfect

@skeggycaggy fair enough and I'm happy that's the case or else we'd be in for a shock on the day!

Op I'd expect food and drink if I was to travel and / or get all dressed up, even just something cheap. However if it's a real 'legal bit only / wear your jeans' occasion that's local to your guests then I'd be ok without food and literally just the ceremony. That's just me personally though.

Bollocks to everyone saying you can’t do what you want and have to feed people. It’s your wedding, so what you want! Sounds ideal.

Your wedding, and I bet the others there will remember it more than many lavish weddings they have been to. Just make sure everyone knows it is a small event, indeed I expect that may be part of the attraction of attending.

I’d go with your plan!

Make it clear to people in advance what the plan is, and it’s up to them whether they attend or not. Assuming you are actually not fussed who attends, then put the ball in their court.

We got married abroad and did similar - told everyone they were absolutely welcome and a few family members joined us, but we didn’t cater for them. If they wanted to take their holiday the same time and place we got married, then fine by us.

I wouldn’t feel obliged to make more inconvenient plans to accommodate others, and those who would be upset by not attending (eg parents) will come and others may not.

I would at least allow enough time for a bit to eat - order afternoon tea platters from Waitrose perhaps, glasses of bubbly - 90 mins then on your way

I know everyone is piling on with how rude it is but I totally get why you asked. We didn't want a wedding either and had relatives that were very put out by our decision. To anyone who's had or wants a wedding it seems inexcusable not to involve family and friends. To me, it felt like everyone thought I was obligated to provide them with a party I didn't want.

That being said, If you have the ceremony and don't celebrate after, both sides will be unhappy. You'll be put out that you had to invite them and they've moaned and they'll be put out that you invited them to a quick ceremony and then left which won't feel like a compromise to them at all.

No way! Packing for a holiday, remembering all the last minute things, emptying the bins etc is all very stressful!
Have your wedding another day.

@Springingintospring

No way! Packing for a holiday, remembering all the last minute things, emptying the bins etc is all very stressful! Have your wedding another day.

Also this. We went on holiday once directly after attending someone else's wedding and that felt stressful enough!