I just can't face the daily battles any more

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I have two DSs (age 12 and 9). And am going through a difficult prolonged separation with their dad. I've been doing most of the childcare through lockdown. He's strict and they listen to him; they really don't listen to me. I've tried talking to them, agreeing on doing things differently but as soon as they get in front of a screen (which is the main headache) everything goes out of the window.

I'm so worn out with it. I've started just going up to my room when they're refusing to stop watching some shite on YouTube yet again to have dinner, or go to bed, or whatever. I'm just tired and frazzled and I can't face yet another battle. Mentally I'm not in a brilliant place myself, particularly as exDH is being very nasty at the moment, so I easily get into a down mood.

I know I need a kick. I know I'm letting the kids down. Can someone help me regain the energy and courage to get some boundaries back again with them? I just want to walk away from it all (I won't, but that's how I feel).

Hey there...sorry to hear this. Wanted to say, mine are similar ages and I feel the same sometimes (frequently) ...and that’s without having to deal with a nasty ex.
Am not able to offer any solid advice (other than maybe spelling out consequences if they don’t do what told OR offering bribes if they do do as they’re told....both options easier said than done!)...but wanted to offer support... be kind to you and maybe occasionally put yourself first eg nice bath/your tv show etc. Hope this passes swiftly and you can feel back in control.

So many people on here have said similar. It just sounds like you're very tired and need to recharge your batteries. It's natural that children take it out on the person they're closest to or just withdraw.

How often are they with ex? Could any relatives help out?