Online friends have chucked me out

[Violaclaws]

I made some friends online through a mutual hobby. We have been chatting for over a year and some of us have met up together IRL. I have RL friends but I ended up talking with these women every day about my life, family and my worries etc and I really thought we were all good friends.
Now it seems that me along with another woman have been removed from our group and I have not an idea why!
I can't tell you how hurt, betrayed and upset I am. I thought this was what children do to each other, not adults!!
Why would they do this??

Okay still no reply. I didn't join in when they were taking the piss out of something, I'm thinking this is it because neither did the other woman.
God I'm never doing this again it feels so nasty.

We don't actually do the hobby IRL together. I haven't shared anymore than anyone else. In fact probably less.

The last conversation I took part in was about my family

Thanks for the insight spongedog I've not done it before

Happened to me with a small group. They'd seen some of my political Facebook posts so kicked me off the WhatsApp. It was a tiny group supporting each other through a specific illness. It took me a long time to get over it.

Sounds like they've decided you are killjoys :( they're not friends

I was chatting to a friend last week who had a similar situation. Apparently WhatsApp were blocking people who hadn't accepted certain criteria on their Facebook accounts. As she had been on neither for a while it had placed a block on the account. Or some such situation.
Could this be a reason?

@Violaclaws

Okay still no reply. I didn't join in when they were taking the piss out of something, I'm thinking this is it because neither did the other woman. God I'm never doing this again it feels so nasty.

If they are like that, taking the piss out of people, or situations, do you not think you're best of out of it?

@GroovyPeanut

I was chatting to a friend last week who had a similar situation. Apparently WhatsApp were blocking people who hadn't accepted certain criteria on their Facebook accounts. As she had been on neither for a while it had placed a block on the account. Or some such situation. Could this be a reason?

Are you able to whatsapp other people outside the group, and get replies, OP?

Sounds like they’re annoyed you didn’t join in the piss taking. Did you say anything disapproving?

I was once removed from a local mums Facebook group. I kept messaging admin to ask why, no reply. After a year I discovered one of the admins was an old neighbour, who was disgruntled that I didn't offer her children a lift to school on rainy mornings! I say you're best off out of it, keep in contact with the other lady as she's in the same boat as you.

Sorry op that sounds very hurtful when you’ve invested time in those relationships

I wasn't in the conversation for a while because I was busy.

I would guess this is the reason why. Perhaps they felt they were divulging lots of personal information that was being seen by someone who wasn’t contributing or acknowledging what they had been through.

You cant get in touch with the other one and see what she thinks?

@Beautiful3

I was once removed from a local mums Facebook group. I kept messaging admin to ask why, no reply. After a year I discovered one of the admins was an old neighbour, who was disgruntled that I didn't offer her children a lift to school on rainy mornings! I say you're best off out of it, keep in contact with the other lady as she's in the same boat as you.

Oh that's horrible too

I am able to use WhatsApp. It's not that but thanks for the suggestion.

@normalsaline

Sounds like they’re annoyed you didn’t join in the piss taking. Did you say anything disapproving?

I didn't disapprove but I did read it and not join in. I have spoken to the other woman and she thinks it's possibly this too.

It's just so hurtful. I've told them things nobody in my life knows about. I hate them.

@Violaclaws

I am able to use WhatsApp. It's not that but thanks for the suggestion.

I'd just leave them to get on with it. They obviously aren't caring or considerate sorts. Sometimes these things can get very cliquey. The piss taking and blocking of people doesn't sound great. You really are best of out of it.

I know there's no point trying to figure it out, they don't sound mature or kind, but I wonder if one of them told one version of a story to you and another version of it to somebody else, and there's a fear that you can expose the truth. Grasping at straws perhaps. But either way, they sound petty and unkind.

And it'll be one of them, and the other cowards going along with it.

Sounds like you're better off out of it. Keep in contact with the other lady that got kicked out too but count your lucky stars to be out of that 'friendship' group...doesn't sound much like friendship to me!

They sound awful. Unless it's a genuine mistake or glitch I would never ever speak to these people again

@SelkieBoru

I know there's no point trying to figure it out, they don't sound mature or kind, but I wonder if one of them told one version of a story to you and another version of it to somebody else, and there's a fear that you can expose the truth. Grasping at straws perhaps. But either way, they sound petty and unkind.

And it'll be one of them, and the other cowards going along with it.

Thanks, yes I'm pretty sure it's one of them now and the others will have gone along with it because they're too scared to say anything.

Thanks for the supportive messages. I do know I'm better off out of it and wouldn't want to speak to them now, but it is hard when you have invested so much in people and trusted them with feelings and they turn around and do that.