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Drunk texting

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Cantstopwontstopeating · 05/04/2021 14:33

Hiii,
So I had a few (a lot) drinks last night and ended up drunk texting the world and his wife last night being an absolute pest.
I have well and truly got the fear today and feel really disappointed in myself and sooo paranoid!
Is anyone else a pest when they are drunk! Make me feel better argh!

OP posts:
FannyChops · 05/04/2021 14:49

I do this Confused

I also post absolute crap to Facebook.

I'm massively limiting my drinking now. The other night I purposely put my phone upstairs after a few drinks.

Embarrassing isn't it.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 05/04/2021 15:29

I do this occasionally. At Christmastime I messaged an ex FWB who I haven't seen in nearly 2 years. Blush

Luckily I don't embarrass easy! I just laugh at myself.

maddiemookins16mum · 05/04/2021 16:42

I used to do this when I was heavily drinking (3 years sober now). I used to dread looking at FB messenger the next day. I once messaged someone at 0234 🙁

KatherineofOregon · 05/04/2021 17:59

I have done this. Actually i find that the drunk mind is more honest... i was never nasty or suggestive but just sort of , honest.

2 examples : About 10 yrs ago i had a lifelong friend from hometown, who always cancelled our arrangements at the very last min. I would have had precious prized childcare in place etc and be really looking forward to it, getting ready , doing my hair and make up.. trying on outfits... and then her txt would arrive... One such time she cancelled 2 hrs prior to night out as she had just remembered she needed to rearrange the boxes in her loft! I was sitting at home fuming relaxing with a wine , alone as my kids were safely in pre arranged sleepover ... when i should have been out. I sent her a drunk txt letting rip, being honest. Said that i was tired of being let down all the time and that a night out for me was a rare treat, where as she has lots of nights out and people to see, due to still living in our hometown and on tap extended family for her childcare. I then rattled off all the excuses reasons she has given me for cancelling. Some were truly utterly utterly ridiculous. Not heard from her since. Reality is , she probably could not be bothered. Guess i embarrassed her. That was yrs ago and i don't miss her at all. In fact i have benefited from not listening to her constant moaning.

Another time, about 5 yrs ago, an ex boyfriend of mine from the 90's , whom i dated when we were in our mid 20's so not young , retweeted a local newspaper paper article about an incident that had been reported to the police. He , now as a happily married father of 2 young daughters, was appalled about the contents of this article. If "anyone tried that with my girls when they are older they answer to me". " No one treats my girls like that" etc etc. They wont get away with it , they will be sorry if i find them blah blah... His tweet came up in my notifications / you may be interested in feed, no idea why - maybe as we have shared friends on the platform. Buoyed by wine courage I reply tweeted to his tweet, reminding him of an exact occasion when he had done exactly the same to me over 25 yrs ago. Needless to say he was not happy , did not dispute what i had said and eventually deleted his post to stop comments. But, it took him a while to see it and many had commented on and seen what i said before he deleted, including his wife. I had so many msgs from people supporting me the following day. I called him out.

I see the odd drunk txting/social media post , as putting things right , as a kind of social media soul cleansing. You do not need to troll or be spiteful, but putting a record straight is cathartic.

I don't drink much at all, rarely; but , when i do it goes to my head and all the things that annoy or have hurt me or have caused me upset in the past, come to the surface and i feel empowered to correct them. I feel empowered to redress.

I am all for the drunk txting/ social media and do not feel bad the next day. It has cleared me of so many users and insincere people in my life and readdressed many imbalances.

We moderate and artificially filter ourselves everyday, we tolerate and we keep our true feelings to ourselves, in order to keep a peace, to maintain friendships, family relationships and exes who were not as thoughtful to us as they are now to their new families. Sometimes though, people just push you too far and alcohol helps to loosen your tongue and the truth comes out, via the medium of drunk texting. I am all for the drunk txting so do not lose any sleep over it OP. You proabably got a whole load of shiz off yr chest!

edwinbear · 05/04/2021 18:40

I told a FWB who was a complete flake, exactly what I thought of him, after he yet again, cancelled plans I was really looking forward to. It was long overdue tbh but unsurprisingly, not well received - especially the part where I criticised his rather lack lustre last ‘performance’. We’ve not spoken since which is no great loss really.

KatherineofOregon · 05/04/2021 19:58

@Cantstopwontstopeating You probably told a few what was long overdue.

Don't be disappointed in yourself.

Let the recipients of your txts spend today reflecting upon what you said.

ElaborateSalad · 05/04/2021 20:05

God yes. I wish my phone had a breathalyser app.

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