This morning when my DP left for work. I packed his bags and put them outside and locked the door. Messaged him and told him his stuff was outside, and if he needs anything else, I will arrange to get it to him when I am able. Blocked him on everything.
He has been mentally abusive for a long time. Yesterday we were having a fabulous day, until he took offence that I was messaging my best friend (one of my only friends, since being a relationship with him) during "our day together" I used to hide the fact I was messaging friends, until recently, during the lockdown he seemed to have turned a corner, we were actually really happy. I though prehaps things had changed.
I was so wrong. He will never change. I had to listen to hour and hours of abuse towards me last night. Saying I was pathetic, sad, didn't love him, loved my friend more than him etc.. it goes on and on.
This man is in his 50s!
I cant take it anymore but Im asking for a handhold and the strength not to let him back in. I love him so much, despite all this, but he is never going to change, and I can't keep on being controlled financially and emotionally.
I am worried that he might try and come in the house as he knows I have to go out later. I am thinking a note stuck on the door would work? Saying he is not to enter the house, and I doing so would lead to his arrest
(The house is rented in my name, and we've had police involvement for domestic in the distant past)
Do you think that might work?
Please help me stay strong on this..
I love him so much, there are of course, wonderful things about him..
But I deserve so much more.